Some quick thoughts on dating type stuff.
Was just browsing through the dating sites.. And It's been a while since I've commented on my experiences on there.
But this one felt like it was worth of a lil write up.
This lady says in her profile something to the extent of.. "I'm looking for a man who can make me happy".
I think this right here is a major thing, I think.. A lot of people probably aren't happy and try to fill that void with a person who they think will suffice.
However.. I'm thinking.. You should already be happy, to whatever extent that is possible.
And.. You know.. Maybe she is and I'm just nitpicking a laziness in language and she just didn't word herself as properly as she could have.
Yet.. I think this is a significant point. Of course a romantic interest will make us HAPPIER, or at least they should or why even connect at all?
Though.. The key word is happier.. You should be happy to some extent already, if you are dependant on someone ELSE making you happy.. That is not good.
You need to be happy already on some level, and not dependant on others for your happiness, they should be an addition to your already somewhat happy state and not the end all be all to such.
That's my opinion anyways! Could be right, could be wrong, could be a combination and a bit of both.
I dunno. Just felt like expressing my thoughts on that.
I don't think she got any response. I imagine her sad, annoying, spoiled, with eyes full of tears... Who would bother with her problems.
In a fairy tale King wanted to make his miserable daughter - princess happy so he promised he will give her and kingdom to anyone who will make her happy. In this case at least poor guys had good motive.
I agree, having your happiness depend on someone else can be crushing at times
I think your thinking is thoughtful and...thought out!
anecdotal It took a little soul searching to realize that in order to spend quality time and have engaging conversations to build a relationship on, one must be happy in the first place. It's just too much to ask of another human to 'make me happy!'
Best of luck in your searches, but I'm a firm believer in that when you're out doing things you want, that make you happy, that's where you'll find those possibilities.
U should be happy and like yourself.
No one else can make your life happier.
You have to want a relationship not need one.
That is the key....
Needy people can destroy you unless you are unbalanced yourself.
Most of dating sites showed me messages as " I'm looking for a man who can make me happy". Lots of people searching happiness. But it could not do theirs. Love want to human life because in build up relationship then after do all of feelings with mix.
I agree that you should already be happy on your own. Requiring someone else to be happy makes for an unhealthy relationship.
@apolymask,
Great thought friend! Yeah happy depends on situations! And I respect the way you think!
Cheers~
They say that happiness is not a destination, it is a journey. We all see it as a final result in the future which never exists but it is the whole process which should be enjoyed while reaching that destination.