I think your thinking is thoughtful and...thought out!

anecdotal It took a little soul searching to realize that in order to spend quality time and have engaging conversations to build a relationship on, one must be happy in the first place. It's just too much to ask of another human to 'make me happy!'

Best of luck in your searches, but I'm a firm believer in that when you're out doing things you want, that make you happy, that's where you'll find those possibilities.