RE: Contest | 25-Word Comment - Monkey Business | Birthday
It's quite fun topic, because the perspective of birthday changes with the time, at least it has changed in my case.
As a child, obviously, I was waiting for that day, hoping I'll get a new toy, or make a party. Then, as the young adult, it was still attractive concept - I wanted this day to be special, I celebrated it in every possible way. Now, it's just another day. Maybe, because getting older is not something I'm waiting for anymore, I'd prefer time to stop or even go back to when I didn't have to make so many doctors appointments to rescue my old body from total collapse. Many,, because I have changed the country where I live so many times, that most of my friends were left behind, and I'm kinda alone here, where I am right now.
Anyway, I still enjoy bithdays, but rather others than mine. It gives me more joy to make a gift or visit someone who is celebrating it at the moment.
BTW, curiosity about birthdays - Until XIXth century, I believe (no sources other than my mind, so google it to make sure I didn't mess up the dates), in Europe the birthday was more an occasion to make a gift to your mother than to receive it from others. It was sort of "thank you that I'm alive" expression of gratitude.
I wonder why it became less important. With me it had to do with a lack of money (childen first) but that doesn't mean I like it to be always being pushed aside because of others. Same for other adults btw. In many cases I was "forgotten" because others celebrating the same day and were found more important.
I think in my case it's like with waiting for Santa. Some birthday magic disappeared and it's impossible to get it back.
Have you thought about celebrating this day in a different way? Ever asked yourself what you want for you? Santa didn't fulfil all wishes and if you know what you asked for or?
I never celebrated Christmas with presents but we have December 5th and we celebrate it till today and I like it more than birthdays although even with the smallest birthday gift we still have fun. It's just more complicated to celebrate on the day itself so we celebrate when we are together as well (if there isn't a party you can make up a reason to have one. There's no need to only celebrate once per year or?).
I think I am trying to celebrate each day, or at least each day when I don't have to work, so I believe I simply don't need birthday as an excuse to do something for myself. It does not always work out, not always there is an opportunity or financial possibilities to do what I want to do, but special days happen more than once per year for me.
Well, I guess you have to check the "Complaints" topic two weeks ago. I guess that was the top. A lot of engagement. Until now, I am not sure if we will have something that is as good as that one.
I do agree with you, as you get older, it becomes less important to you. I guess, it is different between men and women. Maybe, women would still appreciate it at an older age than men.
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The very first had over hundreds but the main problem is that if you do not invite people they don't show up because???? Or perhaps after a year everyone is without a thought or opinion? Or can it be that they only are here to drop a quick post and don't like to interact with other?
what do you think @suryani1, @naina9 and @sumarni123?
If that's true, I'm even more curious what would have an impact on different perspective among genders.
The fun aspect or birthdays?
If it comes to birthdays, I can only say that most likely men have more fun because they are served while to women it's a day where they are not in the centre of attention but only serve, serve, serve. I see it everywhere around me and it's a very good reason not to celebrate and stay in bed with a good book and 1 kilograms of chocolotate. LOL
Does not work like that in non-heteronormative families :) and in fact, shouldn't be like that among straights too