I only have one kid, so I think it would be harder with three. There's a whole load of other dynamics in that -- I don't envy you haha.

We rarely shout, and in contrast to losing the sensitivity, my son perks up if I shout. Our house is generally quiet and my wife and I are peaceful and happy.

I don't do much really. I think the whole difference is that attitude I have on life. I'm rarely stressed, and try and look at everything from a well meaning perspective, and never get stuck in a negative cycle -- that transcends onto my son I think!

Quiet happy family that rarely fights with each other = quiet and happy kids. It's not about what we say, it's about how we act in front of him I think. Since my kid is a boy, it really matters how I behave.

But that's just us - outside our sphere, I have no idea lol