Why setting boundaries important for healthy and balanced relationships?

Setting limits does not mean defending our thoughts and convictions at any costs or imposing on others. It doesn't imply always speaking up and dismissing others' opinions.

In truth, building boundaries entails communicating our needs and wants, even if they differ from others. So we express what we desire. Including what we don't want. Avoiding others' needs and wants is not the point. Thus, people's thoughts and feelings must be considered.

Edward T. Hall and Robert Sommer, pioneers in personal space research, say these boundaries are more than physical. We feel psychologically, physically, and emotionally safe there. Nobody can offend us with their words or actions in our haven.

However, their investigations showed that we often cross these borders. We often don't protect these boundaries well enough. Too often, they're crossed. Let's examine what causes these circumstances and why limitations are crucial.

What prevents me from setting boundaries?
What prevents me from setting limits and saying no? Fear of rejection likely decides.

Suppose someone begs for my aid but I don't think it's useful. Fear of destroying the connection will compel me to help. Even though I don't want it.

Sometimes we put others before ourselves. If we say “no” to someone's request, we feel guilty and think, “If I don't do it, I'll be a bad friend,” or “Don't be selfish.” or “I feel bad for not helping you.”

Ideas are generally overstated. You're not awful since you don't abandon your plans to do what others want. It's fine to prioritise your interests. This is not about self-interest or superiority. Actually, it's about not ranking below others... It's a matter of balance.

When we take on everything, we forget to set limits. Sometimes we get too concerned in others' troubles.

We have trouble saying “no” because we take on unassigned jobs. Helping people with their work when they could do it themselves, curing a friend's difficulty when it's not our responsibility...

Setting limits helps with self-knowledge. Understanding yourself and your needs is key to setting limitations. Be conscious of your wants and needs at all times. What do you want, need, and feel comfortable with?

Setting boundaries can help you respect yourself, and others will respect you for it.

Self-esteem will rise when you set boundaries. Just talking about yourself and giving yourself space. By boosting your self-esteem, you'll overcome your fear of being yourself. Finally, you will no longer have to constantly watch out for your weakness.

You will feel free to voice your demands without feeling guilty for not meeting others' expectations.

When you set limitations, you may say “NO” without feeling pressured to do what others want.

Healthy and balanced social interaction includes setting limits. Without unequal contributions from each party.

This lets you relate to others your way. A lot of personal satisfaction will result. Establishing boundaries eliminates interpersonal frustration and stress.

Respecting your boundaries and those of others will help your relationships become healthy and stable. Respect will prevail, and no one will feel invaded.

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