Assuming you've exceeded upper middle class into the rich zone, then probably the uber successful men who would meet your interest wouldn't be interested in you for the most part, because what benefit can they gain from a successful wife?

So you've basically relegated yourself to either only sex+romance with the successful men but not marriage, or to marrying down. Sad fact of life. Do you see any other option?

But seems if you reach that level of success, why do you even need marriage? Because you had a traditional childhood and want to make your own family? In that case, it seems you'd probably have to marry down to a man of much lower status. That man is basically going to be a slave to you, which is going to cause other abnormalities. No matter how I slice it, it seems uber successful (very rich) women and traditional families seem to be mostly incongruent. Even Bill Gates married far down with Melinda Gates (not her family, but her personal level of status at Microsoft).