On being a woman

in #womanpower7 years ago (edited)

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There’s this kind of woman that men are crazy about.
The woman that knows how to get what she wants, she’s strong enough to stand on her two feet, that without a man she can still live her life, eat well, dress well.

Her ego of being a woman is too high that she think she’s a man in a figure of a woman.

Nobody tells her what to do.

And there’s this kind of woman that men find it more comforting to be with.
The soft, the dependent, the kind hearted,

-too much of kindness that she doesn’t live for herself anymore. For her, her man is the center of her world. That without him, she feels incomplete, incapable of continue whatever she does.

I want to be the in between, the midline of a strong woman and a weak woman.
I want to be a wise woman instead.

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Yes, being a strong woman is the greatest achievement a woman can offer. We’re in the 21st century, stop saying woman can’t feed themselves anymore. She can buy what she wants whenever she likes, she can build a home or buy a car without any man. She can be a leader. She can be a CEO.

She has all of it. All of the what it takes to be a man.

But the problem is, when you’re too strong and independent, you became a man that protect you(as a woman) yourself.

This makes men scared of you.

Because the nature of men is to protect, create a shelter for his woman.
With you, he loses his natural capability.

With you, he feels unnecessary.

How about a weak woman?

This is easy to figure out, because there’s a saying that the weak always loses.
And yes, a weak woman loses herself easily for her man.
Too much sacrifice.
Too much dependency.
Too much “comfort” that it becomes extremely annoying.

This is the type of woman that depends her identity to her man.
She can just lost everything once he leaves. He wouldn’t see her value, because it’s always readily given- a “of course”

That’s why it’s easy for him to leave.
—[NUL]—[NUL]—[NUL]—[NUL]—

A Wise Woman

So, then, what’s a wise woman?

A wise woman, is a woman who knows how to play with being strong and being weak.

Men, likes to be respected as well as how woman likes to be loved and given priority.

Please be strong, strong enough not to loose yourself in love. But weak enough to let your man know that you’re still a woman, who needs him in her life.

A partner,
A friend.

A team.

Strong or weak, I have to say I’m enjoying being a woman :)

Thanks for reading!

@kimmy95

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But the problem is, when you’re too strong and independent, you became a man that protect you(as a woman) yourself.
This makes men scared of you.

Let them be afraid. A man who would be afraid of your confidence would be too weak for you anyway!

Truth be told :) thanks for reading my article :)

Interesting take on the strength of womanhood. If a man fears a woman for being strong and independent then that person is a boy not a man.

A man will treat a woman as an equal.

Yeah just some instances a woman is too strong that sometimes the man feel inferior, so it’s both adjustment from each one of them :)

"Her ego of being a woman is too high that she think she’s a man in a figure of a woman."

This is true! :) I really feel you. Sometimes I felt like I'm stronger than man.

BTW, Nice post! :)

Being a tough woman is something to be proud of. Thank you!!

Yess!! Girl Power!

Interesting take @kimmy95. Thank you for taking of part of the #womanpower writing contest.

Good luck!

Thank you !!

When are you coming back to vn girl?

Hi mr Dang,I’m planning to go back this May cuz we have a long vacation^^ It would be fun if there’s a meet up in SG :)

Btw!! Thanks for the upvote 😮 I was overwhelmed thibgking if you had make a mistake 😝