RE: Reconciling relationships ... with my self
This, honestly, is one of my most favorite things ever! Many people have talked about accepting the darkness.
Matt Khan spoke in a video I watched recently about how you must acknowledge the darkness, the 'ghosts' and welcome them into your life, because they are only 'haunting' you wishing for acceptence. Once you see them as they are, those dark parts of yourself, that brings them into wholeness and peace.
Just yesterday I watched this ted talk about emotions, that also speaks to the same theme and which I found truely beautiful and enlightening :
https://www.ted.com/talks/susan_david_the_gift_and_power_of_emotional_courage?utm_campaign=social&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=facebook.com&utm_content=talk&utm_term=social-science
I am an advocator for truely feeling ones feelings. When I feel emotions adn want to cry, I feel them and I cry. I try not to offer advice to those in sorrow, because that sorrow is not going to go away unless you feel it fully.
I am just thinking about an article I want to write about reconciling BDSM and healthy relationships, and I think confronting dark and taboo parts of yourself is something that healthy BDSM can help with! More on that to come though, I have a lot of thinking to really make that whole thing make sense haha.
Sometimes things get really shitty! No denying that. It is only when you come to terms with the absolute shittyness that you can learn to reconcile with it and move past it. Thank you for sharing such valuable insights! I hope that our societies as a whole begin to see these truths!
Bravo to you. Yes, I like Matt Khan's work as well. There are times where I just feel like crying. So I'll watch sad shows on purpose. I've found within my life a joy when I cry. I actually love crying and feel so much better afterwards. It allows me to move energy that seems stuck and it works very well. Bravo to you for embracing it ALL! I love to hear it!
I actually love to cry too, I don't usually try to hide or suppress my tears. They can happen pretty often haha, and some people find it uncomfortable when I cry out in the open. Often times, crying is me moving through it, moving energy that is stuck yes! I dont usually watch sad or scary shows tho haha, I encounter enough feelings in real life.
thanks for sharing that ted talk, I really like where she says "You dont get to raise a family or leave the world a better place without discomfort. Discomfort is the price of admission to a meaningful life."