I have my dark and broody, generally messy days and my family and friends know that I need time to myself to work through the darkness. It is how I heal spiritually. Bodily I am the same. When I am ill I retreat, rest and treat myself kindly until I am well. I have come to the conclusion that if people think that this is negative and harmful, I ignore them. I know what is best for me. The sharing comes later, when I know I can handle it.