I am not in your situation, because of conscious choices I have made in my life, as I have already wrote, but I really feel your pain, and I completely empathize with you.
You are so right - this will pass too, you probably won't even understand when and how it will happen, you certainly have no idea how it will happen, but it will. Stop blaming yourself for what you feel or for the situation that is. Maybe with a little open conversation, things could improve. (By the way, doesn't your husband read what you write here?) And no, if your in-laws live with you, giving some money is not just financial support, it would be a normal thing.
Keeping my fingers crossed that things start to get better and that your son recovers too!❤️
How does one describe a situation where someone stays for extended periods — sometimes over a month — but doesn’t quite contribute in the way a regular member of the household would? Their responsibilities are few, and their involvement in daily affairs is limited. To be fair, their age is a factor, and that deserves understanding and compassion. Economically, they may offer help occasionally, but not in the day-to-day running of the home. In essence, they are considered "guests".
Not really :)
I’m actually in a better place than many around me. They’re not bad people — in fact, they’re kind and well-meaning. It’s just that when it comes to taking responsibility, especially for the small, everyday things, there’s often a gap. And over time, those little things begin to matter.
It’s not as simple as just talking about it. Maybe I could have that kind of open communication with my husband — and I often do. But with them, it’s different. No matter how gently I try to express myself, I worry it won’t be received well. These day-to-day things feel too small to bring up, yet too heavy to keep carrying alone. And then I question myself — am I being too harsh? Too sensitive? Or perhaps just not understanding enough?
It's just the completely natural need for personal space, your own home, where you are the determining factor, the determining factor in your own life. Personally, I wouldn't feel comfortable being forced to live with other people, outside of my own family - my partner. I've had to, and honestly, it's not for everyone, it's not for anyone.
Yes, in many cases we don't have a choice, and many people are in a much worse situation, but I hope that things will somehow change. Something to happen, small or big, that will turn things around 180 degrees, just like that, because it's clear that a solution cannot be found otherwise.