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RE: roommate roulette: back at the tables again
Good luck. I can't imagine living with a roommate. Relationships are hard enough, doing so with someone even more distant makes me shudder. But then I prefer my privacy.
Living with roommates has taught me a lot. Being forthright and standing my ground with someone I am not related to, is a good place to practice relating with the outside world as well the closer and more personal relationships. Being told by people who are not related to me that they love living with me is a compliment.
I love my privacy as well. I want to be able to sit on my couch and not feel obliged to talk or be hijacked into someone’s noise. I tell people straight out that I’m an introvert and like to be in my head. No need to fill the silence with sound. I tell them to text me if I’m in my room. If we can make phone calls and texts wait til a good time, a roommate can honor time at home. JNET is not on-demand to anyone.
A relationship might be much harder. People tend to take the people they care the most, for granted. There’s an even greater demand to balance sharing and being “good selfish”. And then there’s the challenge of maintaining personal identity while building a team identity.
Creating a thriving home space with someone I don’t love and simply honor as a fellow human that I chose to be my roommate has taught me a lot. Some had been terrible. But many remain friends.
Thanks for the luck!
J