@nomad-magus, I always love your articles. I agree that you should know yourself. Years ago I went for hypnotherapy to sort some things out that lay in my past. I did not exactly find the answers there, but it put me on a road of serious introspection. I came to the conclusion that, although I am an outgoing, even loud type of person, there was a frightened little girl hiding inside me. Once I recognised her, I started leading her towards the light. The first thing that I needed to realise, was that I do not have to be strong all the time. I can also depend on other people to love me. I am still on my journey, but with journalling every morning, I keep constant tabs on the real me. I am altogether a more satisfied person.