Wow. Your introspection is like off the charts high.

I'm lost for what to say and may respond with more later, but just want to say, a tepid half-measure moderate I doubt would feel their comfort zone change.

The fact that you're examining it like that and feel that way kind of goes to show that you're what I would describe as a full force in the world.

Being congenial is one thing. I certainly don't go around making enemies either (only occasionally, like at the zoo, lol). It's not even that you have to call people out for bad ways, but if you know it in your heart, that's really all that matters. Then at least you'll know not to get too close or when it may be better to separate.. you won't become their bad ways.

Often you can take kernels of insight from all sorts of ideas or people. That's why I like when people are authentic rather than moderate. It could be that this is what you're doing. Which seems totally good and healthy.

It's not as if I don't want to take a stance, I just wonder if it's worth it. I mean, at the end, everyone simply wants to be happy and loved. I know the difference individualistic approaches to happiness will cause fiction and maybe conflicts. But then, can't we all be as flexible as we can?

It's a really interesting point/question. In an ideal state we don't have to worry about people having all these bad qualities, and you can just go around loving everyone, so I think there's like a "yearning" that we want to do that. Personally I try to be open to everyone, until I have good reason not to be. I like to be flexible in terms of understanding how they got to this point, and forgiving and giving lots of chances. But not flexible in terms of necessarily incorporating everything into myself, without a filter of whether it's good and useful for me or not.