Think of it this way—if a mentally unstable person approaches you on the street and tells you he’s John F. Kennedy, you’re unlikely to set him straight. When you find yourself with a coworker who is engaged in similarly derailed thinking, sometimes it’s best to just smile and nod. If you’re going to have to straighten them out, it’s better to give yourself some time to plan the best way to go about it.
The more irrational and off-base someone is, the easier it should be for you to remove yourself from their traps. Quit trying to beat them at their own game. Distance yourself from them emotionally and approach your interactions like they’re a science project (or you’re their shrink, if you prefer the analogy). You don’t need to respond to the emotional chaos—only the facts.
I would suggest reading "The Four Agreements", by don Miguel Ruiz , there is an entire section on toxic people. His views and understanding are refreshing at the least, and can be very helpful.
You are very welcome...I hope it helps. I think in the end it is a personal matter, we each learn our own way...but tools to get there are always good :)
Think of it this way—if a mentally unstable person approaches you on the street and tells you he’s John F. Kennedy, you’re unlikely to set him straight. When you find yourself with a coworker who is engaged in similarly derailed thinking, sometimes it’s best to just smile and nod. If you’re going to have to straighten them out, it’s better to give yourself some time to plan the best way to go about it.
thanks for advice, sometimes it so hard to straighten them out))))
The more irrational and off-base someone is, the easier it should be for you to remove yourself from their traps. Quit trying to beat them at their own game. Distance yourself from them emotionally and approach your interactions like they’re a science project (or you’re their shrink, if you prefer the analogy). You don’t need to respond to the emotional chaos—only the facts.
good morning, thank you. Distance yourself - are good advice but, so hard... sometimes impossible)))
I would suggest reading "The Four Agreements", by don Miguel Ruiz , there is an entire section on toxic people. His views and understanding are refreshing at the least, and can be very helpful.
thanks for your advice and suggestions!! ))
You are very welcome...I hope it helps. I think in the end it is a personal matter, we each learn our own way...but tools to get there are always good :)