I am still fairly new here, this being my 5th day. I get what you are saying, but would like to add a little perspective that seems to get missed by many.
The higher one gets in followers and steem power here, the more people will begin pulling at you. I imagine many whales who are active must have dozens to hundreds of people actively trying to get their attention daily. Some may be witty, most I imagine annoying. It would seem impossible for whales, and those close to being a whale to have enough time to acknowledge a fraction of the new people trying to get their attention.
To further compound this, the whales have already accumulated a ton of people who have captured their attention for quality content, enough that I imagine it is difficult for them to find time to even do these contributors much in the way of regular attention.
My final thought is whales probably at times have ideas they still wish to share, and being many of them have experiences here that a lot of us smaller fish do not, their posts often contain a lot of great information. In fact, it might be the most beneficial thing they can share, as it doles out something of value equally to any of us who are willing to invest our time into reading it.
Good luck to you friend, and may blessings continue to find you here. Please revisit this post one day when you are a whale and share your views on the points you raise once you have their perspective.
I like the way you break it down and make your explanation understandable, what can i say perhaps i will come back and make some changes... Thanks for dropping by cheers.