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Challenges, whether they originate from yourself or some other source, are what keeps us striving to be better people. In our 15 years of marraige, my husband and I have seen some challenges for sure.
But five years ago, my husband received the most challenging diagnosis of his life: Ankylosing Spondylitis (ankill-oh-sing spon-dill-eye-tiss). This, my friends, is not the kind of challenge you want in life. AS, as it's called for short, is an autoimmune disease that affects the whole body, but focuses on fusing your spine and joints so you cannot move anymore. This means that at some point, your spine and ribcage is like a welded cage that cannot expand and you can't cough, sneeze, or breathe properly. As an added bonus, it also treats your soft tissue like an enemy and tries to destroy it.
In five years, my husband has been in ICU twice, 3 major surgeries, lost 9 inches of his intestines, and the eyesight in his right eye. He can no longer stand up straight, look up, turn his neck side to side, or straighten his arms. The daily joint pain and spinal fusion pain is crippling. He also lost his career as a Crime Scene Analyst as a sworn deputy due to the physical limitations this disease inflicts. I had to sell my wedding ring just to keep our home.
In order to supress the immune system, since it's the immune system that has gone haywire, doctors prescribe a duo of methotrexate (chemo) and a biological called Enbrel (a tumor necrosis factor TNF blocker). The Enbrel allows him to move and lessens the pain. The chemo keeps his immune system from attacking. Even an ant bite can be the match that starts a wildfire flare-up! He describes the pain as "shards of glass grinding in my joints".
Without insurance, these drugs together are $4300 PER MONTH. The Enbrel is packaged in a Sure-Click pen like the now infamous EpiPen and is the lion share of the cost at $4000 PER month, or $1000 PER pen.
So while we have always found challenges to be a great motivator, we have found this one to be more like a physical, mental, and financial gladiator, willing to fight us 24/7 and even on weekends and holidays. I cannot work outside the farm because my husband needs me and the farm needs me and the kids need me. But the husband and the farm and the kids need money. So I began growing vegetables, selling eggs, and selling pastured meats to help. This is a good plan, but slow as you can only sell these things when they are ready. Aha! I'll make YouTube videos and see what happens. Again, a slow process for a homesteading home schooling family with no WiFi. Then there's Steemit...
What I have found in steemit goes far beyond what I was hoping to get, namely, money for my family. What I have found is a quickly growing community of people who CARE and have offered some words of comfort. Honestly, I've been too "badass" my whole life to need anyone's comfort. I've always been there for others in THEIR time of need. "Ain't nothin but a thing and a chicken wing" I'd say.
But this time is different. This time, there has been no magic phone number, doctor, insurance company, foundation, or club that has wanted to help. Sure, people have tried, but they run into the same thing we do (beaurocratic red tape) and give up.
So now, I spend much of my day on steemit. I have always loved writing so blogging feels like slipping into warm, cozy slippers on a cold day. I am hoping to be able to provide for my family on some level while I still grow the farm. I can take care of my husband and home school the children. I would SOOOOOOO appreciate it if you would help us out by upvoting, resteeming and following. I do try to provide value in each post, so I won't waste your time. Thank you and STEEMITFULLTIME!
Special thanks to @aggroed for being such a guiding light and kind soul ❤
You are badass but caretakers need caring as well. Steemit is a caring community❤️
Learning to accept comfort has been my personal toughest battle. Thank you so much for your support!
I have the same trouble, I've friended you so I can give encouragement and support.
Much obliged! This was a tough post, but sometimes we have to put it all out there and see that people really do care...thank you
You are welcome🌼
I am so sorry that this has happened to your husband and family.
My father went through something similar as far as having an auto-immune disease that in his case started attacking his own muscles. They had to give him one of the same drugs to stop it from spreading to his heart which is of course a muscle too.
I homeschool as well, so can relate to you there. I can't imagine what you are going through right now.
I'm glad that you have found Steemit and are enjoying yourself here, and I hope that you have great success.
Thank you so much! I was hoping to connect with others who understand how this flips your life upside down. I'm sorry your father was hit with an autoimmune disease. It's a whole new battle for sure. Thank you for resteeming!
Big upvote and resteem for this one - I'm so glad you found steemit and you're right - the community support and connections here are so much more then the monetary rewards.
Here's hoping things get easier for you from here :)
Big hopes and dreams are going on here, hope to make them realities!..thank you so much for your support!
You're very brave. And I'm very proud of you. So, glad you're here!
Thanks...looking forward to seeing what's possible. Here we go!
You are one amazing woman, @farmandadventure.
I wish that one day, god blesses me with a woman of your type. One that is loving, caring, one that would stick with me no matter what hapens, one who would do anything just to comfort me and make me feel better day after day.
From my life experience, these virtues are really hard to find in women nowadays. You are the 1%, everybody else is the 99%.
I don't have words to describe how I feel. But when I see couples who stick together like you and your husband, it really touches me.. and it makes me feel that there's still a lot of hope in this world we live in.
I wish your husband gets better and I hope you both are united for a lifetime and more.
Your husband has my prayers.
God bless.
Oh wow, I'm crying now, but thank you! We have a very special family, as I was married for 10 years before to an abusive, neglectful person. My husband came along and took on me and 3 little girls, then we had 2 boys of our own. It's not always easy to blend families but there are some really good, strong women out there who would love to have a man who appreciates there strength and commitment. I hope you find her because she's out there for sure! Thank you for your support.
Cheer up dear. I truly wish you all the happiness in this word for you, your husband and your little kids. It's hard to find someone who appreciates. But only if you've tried the worst, you'll be able to recognize the best.
Thank you for your kind words. Stay positive and smile at life, it will smile right back at you :)
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Upvoted and resteemed. let's get the message out there and help this family out.
Thank you! Your kindness is soooo appreciated!
Wow that is a powerful post. Happy and honored you asked me to share this with Steemit Blogger Central. Posting it for you now
Protect your health man, its really all we've got. Thank you for sharing!
I agree, my prayers are with you my friend. I know its a stressful time but I will try to help where I can and get this message out there to everyone. This community is amazing about being there for one another so I pray that this is swiftly covered so things can be taken care of promptly.
Upvoted, resteemed and followed, fight the good fight and know the Steemit community is with you!
I'm really feeling the support right now. After so many years feeling alone, this is fabulous! Many thanks
What a horrible disease. Glad you wrote about it and let it be known here.
I follow you and resteem later to make the attention more spread. Of course I upvoted. I hope your posts on steemit will help you and your family with the costs and of course the writing helps too. Thank you for sharing
Thank you for helping spread awareness of AS and for the support of our family🌻
Just said a special prayer for your husband, your family and you.
Thank you❤
You're welcome. I have chronic sciatica. I find myself complaining to god about it. Then He sends me a message like this and says "So what is your problem again?"
Hey sciatica stinks! Blessings to you