Is Motherhood A Skill?

eliany (78)in #steemexclusive • 26 days ago

Do every woman born, know how to become a mother automatically? I don't think so until they have a child.

Although women have that natural ability to nurture another human, it doesn't come up immediately until they have a child which triggers it and then gradually those skills show up.

Well, I took this picture in my cover image a few days ago when I was seriously working online and my baby was also beside me she needed some attention because I was so focused on my work for quite number of hours as I needed to complete so many tasks and make a report.

Normally, I do pause and play with her anytime I'm working like this because we are so attached to each other, the bond has grown so strong that we can't stay for some hours without each other. On this day it was worst, I calculated my time and there was non left so I was seriously compiling report and I didn't want to make mistakes. She felt I have abandoned her, she wanted me to carry her and her baby.

I was exhausted but I had no choice

So when I carried her, we gisted, tell stories till she slept off and I decided to capture this moment. What's even prompted me to capture this moment is that so many things runs through my mind I know how disturbing she was that day and I had a lot of task to complete on my desk.

It came to my mind that although motherhood is a natural growth or role, it is also a skill because I don't think anyone who has not given birth to a baby would be able to tolerate some disturbance and attitude that our children do give us and that's why that mother love is there.

Most times I wonder how teachers scale through in schools. Anyway,I commend all the teachers for their efforts, endurance and self sacrificing spirit.

I also ponder through this scenario, Everything a person bought comes with a manual and before using it, you go to your manual see how to use it very well and when it has any issues you still have to go back to your manual and see how to go through it.

But in motherhood, you think everything, strategize everything, you plan everything and you think of the outcome, no one does it for you.

As if that's not enough, you become a teacher, cook, personal assistant, nurse, playmate, friend, adviser.

From my experience

Always around me even at work place

Motherhood is a journey that never finished, just like marriage and in this journey you are the tutor and also the student. Why I'm I saying this? from my experience from nursing time, you learned and understand your baby feeding time, different strategies to feed your baby well, you don't mind sitting for 4 hours late in the night breastfeeding.

Motherhood has thought me patience, adaptability, empathy, problem-solving, nursing/care, love.

Teaching is one of those things I find interesting, my daughter have that zeal in learning and take it upon myself to build up that zeal in her and it has helped her so much academically while growing.

Feeding can be challenging but I'm grateful she has a cooking niche which has also helped me in that area as we will always cook together which motivate her to eat.

Education is also what I've come to realize that as a mother , you need to study to impact the knowledge, be readily available to answer questions at toddler age. I now read books, study, to understand what to expect at different stages of child growth and how to survive it.

Skills I build in this motherhood journey

Multitasking; very important because if not, you will end up to finishing all task.
Patience; my advice to all the single ladies is "if you don't have patience do not have a child"
Tolerance; ability to tolerate is very necessary in motherhood.
Time management; of course you need this to meetup your daily task else you have piled up work with limited time to accomplish.
Communication skills; of course your child learn from you so the way you speak with your child, others, friends matters a lot because they learn all this from you.
Emotional intelligence; staying calm under pressure to reduce tension, it also helps in your mental health and physical health. You must respond to empathy to be able to apply this skill.

In Fact, all skills are required in motherhood to be able to train your child to become responsible in life.

Teaching, Guidance and counselling Skills
Life Management practical Skills
Communication Skills
Mental Skills
Personal Development skills
Social Skills

I've built all these skills to be able to take care of my kids.

My priority even at work, I take a break for her

Challenging stage of motherhood

I've experienced pregnancy where the weight of the baby feels really challenging carrying it all around and being careful of what you eat etc. I've experienced nursing stage, the sleepless night of breastfeeding, the crying that you don't really know what the problem is, finding it difficult to understand your baby needs, feeding trial time and now I'm in the toddler age.

Mimicking mummy

I think if I want to compare all this stages the most difficult of all them is this toddler because this is the stage you impact that knowledge, this is the stage you teach, correct, and build.

I recently had a conversation with someone and she made a comment that "toddlers ears are fancy they do not hear anything" haha I found this comments interesting because I've also experienced it.

Not as if they don't hear they heard you very well, but they find it challenging to believe that what you are saying is true and so these stage really need patience.

My daughter will always ask "WHY " and say "NO" to everything both the ones she agrees or not.

Most times it can be annoying but all I do is to remain calm, and tell her the reason of course she is learning from me.

So with these reasons of mind I found motherhood as a skill. Without having the skills you won't be able to scale through as a mother.

In some organisation, I think mothers should always be considered when they apply for a job because they have all skills that is needed to carry out that job successfully but in some cases when they discover that you're a mother the refuse giving you that job they neglect you of some opportunities which is not fair.

Please let's try to be fair with mothers, we are heroes

So tell me do you also find motherhood as a skill? Why?