Steem School EP 5 - How to Find Great People on Steem & Become Friends!
Today I write about making real friends here on Steem with which you can do things outside of Steem!
All that people want are followers and upvoters and fuck yes I want a lot of followers and cash as well, denying that would be hypocritical because without the money Steemit would just be a better Facebook version (which I stay away from).
Anyway, here on Steem I have met people that I get along with very well and with whom I work & talk with on a daily basis.
@Hopehuggs for example, she is a member of my group the "Berserkers" we talk and work together on Steem & Discord on a daily basis.
Friendship requires that you have the same interests and @Hopehuggs and my interest is Steem & self-improvement.
This should already give you an idea on how to build real friendships here on Steem!
How to Make Real Friends on Steem
First of all, you need to find people that have your interest (Steem is not enough). I suggest that you find 10 people here on Steem and follow them.
You also bookmark their blog pages so that you can easily open their blogs and not lose overview when you follow more than 10 people.
Yes, I only follow a select a few people to not lose the overview of things. The Steemit feed is currently not suited to keep a good overview of more than 10 blogs.
Furthermore, it is impossible to make really deep connections with more than 10 people. 10 People are already a lot.
So you find 10 people you like and write on their blogs every damn day (read this how to write awesome comments post). Remember that you want to build real friendships here & not some followers.
Afterwards, you invite them to talk with you over Skype, Discord or whatever platform you know to talk with each other (chatting is not enough).
Then you start helping each other and exchange gifts, basically like you maintain any real friendship.
How to make Friends on Steem in a Nutshell:
1. Find 10 people whose blogs you like to read.
2. Follow and bookmark their blogs.
3. Write extraordinary comments on their blogs
4. Invite them to talk with you.
5. Exchange gifts, upvotes, talk with each other on a daily basis.
6. Keep writing comments!
If you follow these tips and combine them with common sense you will be able to create a nice dragon "friendship".
Avoid Doing These Things
Here are things that you must abstain from doing if you want to build a real friendship.
1. Doing this to get more money.
2. Not helping and exchanging gifts with each other.
3. Writing bad comments.
4. Endless flattery in the comments.
5. Try to build a friendship with more than 10 people.
6. Irregular contact.
7. Trying to build a relationship with people whose blogs you don't like.
There are also more things to avoid, I recommend to just be yourself and to remember the tips that I wrote here, like that you will be able to meet the people you like.
And hopefully, you will meet each other in real life or at least exchange gifts!
Conclusion
You do not have to exchange physical gifts (which would, however, be awesome)! You can also exchange virtual gifts like upvotes, ebooks, advice or other stuff which you can gift to them which is virtual!
Here are gifts which I received from Steemians for example (The bear claws are custom made by @jist & the books are a gift from @hopehuggs)!
Get More & Higher Upvotes: Steemfollower
Convert your Bitcoin to EUR/USD (Europe:) Wirex
Berserkers Discord Server: Discord
The greatest people that I have met on Steem are @hopehuggs, @Jist, @humaneaerl, @Flauwy & @Snook.
I appreciate all the help and gifts too, Philip. Thank you.
As with everything good in life, it takes time to develop friendships even here on Steemit. It is about recognizing commonalities and the people you just click with, these are the ones to develop. It doesn't happen that often, so it is relatively easy to stick within 10 people.
Sometimes you can make mistakes here also, as some people put up a facade and fool you (I was duped by someone last year), so making sure to keep it real is essential.
Agreed - keeping it real is mandatory, both online and in real life.
No point in putting your energy into friendships with people you wouldn't actually want to hang out with, as ultimately, it is a waste of your time and efforts and theirs.
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Easily best comment on the post.
Narrowing down to a group of 10 people is an interesting concept. It makes sense though to focus on a small community, even in life. I never thought about it, but I just seem to flutter around steemit without making real connections. I did connect with a couple, though. I will add them to my ten list and work on connecting with a few more. I think you are right, we often focus on getting followers but feel like strangers in a crowd without friends. I will try your approach. Blessings.
A very great comment Gatorlynne.
I am glad that you have read the post and apply what I wrote without this fake flattery.
Up with you!
That' s why I'm pretty selective n the people I follow. But then on top of that it is difficult to keep up with more than 10 people like you said. As a matter of fact I can count on one hand the people's who blogs I visit on a regular. You are one of them of course.
Some people just mesh better with others. There are only a handful of people I just gel with. So people should find others who they vibe with. Even in my everyday life I only have a handful of people that I stay in communication with. The way I see it is that the fewer relationships you have the deeper that relationship and the more relationships you have the more shallow they'll be.
100% agree Earl.
Around 5 people is actually perfect, it doesn't require much effort to stay in constant contact with 5 people!
Flauwy's blog and yours are actually the only ones that I follow since I started here.
Everyone else I follow now I got to know later.
Steemit is pure bliss,
Steemit makes other platforms feel cold and lifeless. The support Dtube/Steemit and the blockchain gave me in 2 weeks curb stomped 2 years of other online platforms income into the ground. Steemit is the future of art, music and online creation.
Then you talk about the people, Steemit has the best user base of any social media platform, hands down. It might be the incentive of getting paid but the comments here are very friendly. Even the short and kinda annoying comments are atleast of possative nature. You don’t see any angry, aggressive trolls like in other platforms.
Your tips here are amazing for new memebers and maybe even old members who have yet to find success on Steemit, you do amazing work my friend. Hope all is going well in the land of 🇩🇪.
Keep up the solid content, love it.
Todd
Great comment Todd.
You put some effort into your comment and added value to it.
And same here, I earned more here in 2 months than I earned with my 2 year old blog.
Up with you!
I learned this from your previous videos. You made me step back and see how other platforms really push horrible comment habits. After watching your video, going back to FB hurt my head. I need to start adding pics like you said in that video too. 🐿
Be careful with the flattery, it is easy to see who does that for upvotes.
Don't do that mistake.
Great tips. It's really important to find people with similar interests, because that is what makes people connect with each other on a higher level! And I agree that one shouldn't overdo it by trying to build relationships with too many people at once. If you're trying to build relationships with a 100 people, then it's probably not going to happen. But yeah, Steemit is a fantastic place to find new friends that you can meet in real life at some point.
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A great comment Trendo!
Up with you!
This post got me thinking, it's true most of us give steemit great attention because of the benefits attached including myself i would not be here if not for that. But it should not be just that. I have met someone don't know if I should call him a friend yet but we share the same interests, am a music lover so is he so it was easy to get along. Thanks for the information @valorforfreedom am still new here tho..following you
Another great comment, up with you as well.
I agree with you @valorforfreedom. One of the reasons I joined Steemit was to connect with likeminded people who create art, design or write interesting articles like this one. I feel there is more authenticity in this platform because everything is more transparent, less curated and there seems to be less marketing. By now, I've found a cool and super talented supporter like @shinyforest. I really enjoy and support her art as well. This post has encouraged me to create more meaningful relationships with my fellow steemians and I really wish that comments don't fade away for the convenience of voting. When I started, I wrote more comments and I must admit I have fallen on the trap of not doing it as much. Thanks for you post, I really enjoyed reading it. I'm gonna follow you for more insights! Upvoted as well.
Thank you Creativista.
Check this post out to write even better comments and get nice upvotes by applying the advice in that post.
I recommend that you read this post: https://steemit.com/steem/@valorforfreedom/2lpr5ndq
There are a lot of people that I like to talk on steem, but I might also apply this tips to get to know them better. On Steemit it is easier to find people that share the same ideas about something and to help each other. It is really cool to find friends from all over the world.