LONELINESS Can I get anything good out of it?

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We all go through a moment in life when we feel alone, especially after a relationship breaks up, after moving to another country, after a life change or some other situation.

We always associate loneliness with something bad, but that's not all. Loneliness can be a path to growth and development. Although this period can be somewhat painful, it can also be transformed to give us an opportunity to get to know ourselves better and evolve. That's why I want to share with you some very practical exercises in which we can manage that feeling of loneliness and turn it into a tool that will allow us to grow and evolve in our development.

When we feel lonely, we are experiencing a myriad of emotions such as sadness, fear, and much more. The first step to managing these types of emotions is to accept them and be empathetic with our feelings, that is, to understand, validate, and process what we are feeling.

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That's why I want to share with you an exercise that I have applied to my life and I have explained it so that many of my friends and people I have helped can use it. Create an emotions diary, this consists of having a notebook at hand and writing down how we feel every moment that we remember doing it and the reason why we feel that way. This exercise allows us to break down that feeling of loneliness into smaller parts in order to work on each one of them.

I also share with you a practical exercise: take a moment at the end of the day and reflect on why you feel lonely that day, try to find the patterns or those that trigger this type of feeling.

Another very important point is that we strengthen the relationship with ourselves, learn to enjoy our own company and this is key so that loneliness has a positive aspect. You can take the initiative to do some activity that you like to enjoy in solitude, it can be watching a movie, reading a book or simply going for a walk around a square, take this time to connect with yourself and above all take time for self-care.

When we are experiencing a moment of loneliness we can dance but it is also an excellent opportunity to rethink those genuine connections. A practical exercise is to make a list of those people with whom we can have a much more meaningful relationship, after this initiate some kind of contact either with a meeting, calls or messages and thus begin to create or strengthen a relationship without fear of being vulnerable.

A practical example might be to find a group or community that interests you, where you can share knowledge, ideas and opinions with other people.

It's important to always find the positive side of everything and everything that happens. If we don't manage loneliness effectively, it can exhaust us and lead us down paths we don't want. Loneliness can also make us understand the importance of having meaningful relationships with other people and help us grow. What will you do?