Consciousness Series: Stop Working for Love, unconditional love vs attachment

Stop working for love. A lot of people have inside their heads the idea that they have to work to get love otherwise they don't feel they deserved it.

Key is understanding that this idea comes from your own experiences. If you come from a environment where you always had to work hard to be accepted and be loved, than this will become your reality your truth. To be accepted and loved i have to put in effort. If i dont get love or am accepted i have to put in more work. Because this proces is subconsciouss it will become a feeling where if the person doesnt work for love and/or acceptance it just wont feel right. This is a gateway for premium disaster. Working to pull love out of someone is the same thing like working for air.

The truth is there was never an issue with you but with your environment the people you where looking for love and acceptance with where never able to freely give it, probably because of their own life experiences where they had to close of their hearts to avoid getting hurt, which is a common issue in our times.

But the essence of love is that Its everywhere its freely given no work or effort needed.
When you work to get love you will always attract people who have issues with freely giving love because that are the only people you have to work for love with. You will end up in an unbalaced relationship where you will be the one putting in the most work and therefore becoming the most attached to someone who just isnt capable at this time to give.

If you want to work for love work to learn to freely give love without expectations,just because love has a positive effect on your surroundings and yourself and you will cultivate a better understanding of the nature of what we call love.

If you want to work for love work towards fully receiving love whenever it comes your way, without having to lift a finger for it. You will find that suprisingly there is a lot of love in your environment which you probably weren't even aware of .You deserve to be loved unconditionally without having to pull it out of someone.

In our material world almost everything has a price, love however is still and forever will be free

Now these posts are just my philosophies and ideas. These are my personal perspectives and not the end all be all of life, i’m always open for exchange of ideas and respect everybody's way of life and opinion. The aim of it is just to trigger some thaughts in someone and also trigger my own.

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