Introduction

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I remember growing up, my brain was so sharp. I was one of the best in class. I had nothing to worry myself about. All I needed, was provided for by my parents. Reflecting back now, that was truly the golden age of my memory until adulthood crept in slowly and unnoticed. Now all I think of is how to pay bills, meet up with work and meeting deadlines. My brain has become a war zone of responsibilities and as a result of this, I forget a lot of things now.

Let me pause for awhile to tag some friends to read along; @Simonnwigwe, @joan-na, @josepha.

One of the moments that truly made me reflect was when I forgot a friend’s traditional wedding. He was really pissed with me because he reminded me some weeks to the main event but in the end I didn’t turn up because it escaped my mind. That day I was busy preparing my presentation for a zoom meeting with my boss and other departmental head, that the thought of any marriage didn’t even cross my mind because that was a high stake meeting I couldn’t miss.

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It was midway into the meeting that I remembered about the marriage and by the time time I came out of it, the wedding was already over. I thought I could ease the tension by sending him a token as an apology but he rejected it. That gesture alone made me realize how angry he was with me. I was forced to pick a weekend to go visit him to explain things better to him. Thankfully, that visit helped mend our friendship again.

As adults, in our bid to survive or become successful, we tend to put our hearts into things that generate income for us and recognition. But in doing so, we neglect those little things that makes life worthwhile like our relationships, our memories, and the simple gestures that show we care and in some cases hurt friends feelings who was there for us all this while before our calendar became so full.

For a lot of us, who fall into this category of forgetting things easily, don’t beat yourself up. Is just a sign of overwhelmed life. The best advice I can give now is to make use of “reminders” on your phones or maybe make a list of things you wish to do the next day before going to bed, it has helped me a lot. But despite those your busy schedules, try and create a space in your to-do list for people that matters most in your life because the world may keep spinning, but the bonds we nurture are what keep us grounded.