I still use an agenda although I rarely check it. Once written fown I remember it but I also admit I rarely care if it comes to remembering everything and showing up but... (here's but again) if I want to or find it important I do show up no matter where I am.

To me a job is no longer important. I've been there and noticed it's more a out keeping up appearances than being the best horse in the stable (it's never rewarded).

There's one thing you cannot buy which is time.You can't turn the clock back. If you wouldn't show up to my wedding I would be disappointed and you had spoiled my day (and mood). I undeestand how your friend feels and I don't believe a job is an excuse.