TOXIC RELATIONSHIP

In this article, I will discuss What a toxic relationship means, Signs of toxic relationship, Effects and ultimately, the Way out.

INTRODUCTION

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If something is said to be toxic, it is harmful, corrosive, unhealthy and very dangerous, from elementary chemistry (acknowledgement to all chemistry students reading this piece), we were told times without number in the laboratory that some stuffs are very toxic and must not be toy with. Any slight mistake in handling any of the substance gets that part of the body involved hurt, I was once a victim.
Relating this to toxic relationship, is being in a relationship that is unhealthy to one's potential, purpose of existence, passion and interest. A Toxic relationship is often characterize by behaviors that are emotionally, physically and mentally limiting to the individual involved. It is the opposite of healthy relationship which involves passion, trust and care. On this note, let me reveal that it is not with the opposite sex only, a toxic relationship can be with one's parent, friends, hobby, past partner and lots more.

Signs of Being in a toxic relationship

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Toxic relationship always take from you, you are never trusted, there is always unfriendly and unhealthy communication, there is always no/low support towards what you are interested in. A toxic relationship always tells your fault, it diminishes your self-worth, it's always self centered, it's always self centered. Take this, Any relationship you don't derive joy is dictated has toxic!, healthy relationship ought to be passionate about your purpose which is the primary reason for your existence.

Effects of toxic relationship

Toxicity in relationships has these following effects; feelings of low self-esteem, Depression (can be serious threat to mental health), Fear, et.c.
If you are in a toxic relationship with the opposite sex, it must be stated that you are deliberately eating poison and expecting the person beside you to die, if you are in a toxic relationship with your parent, dear, you need wisdom to sort it out.

Ways out of toxic relationship

Here are possible way out of toxic relationships,
Discover yourself, step out and surround yourself with positive minded people, as you step out of your past, begin to live in your newly discovered world. Next, heal yourself; if you keep on holding to the memories of the past, present and future adventures will not be interesting. Now that you've realized how hurting the relationship was, and how it has caused you great pain, kindly note all the lessons the union caused you and discard the guilts. It must be noted that the fastest means of getting healed is through forgiveness, never allow past situation to wain you down. Also, clear your mind off pains, guilts and don't forget it is a toxic relationship, so there is no way you won't feel the pain. It's a new world, choose rightly who to work and walk with. Not those who will make you seek for revenge, not those who will add salt to your injury or those who will complicate the whole issue, surround yourself with people who will help you get well quickly
Lastly, write out positive affirmations to declare to yourself daily, make it a must everyday or paste it all around your room (possibly a goodbye letter to your toxic past) and see yourself as new and different person- see a more useful person, a more loving person, a happier person, a more brilliant person, a more beautiful or handsome person, and a more expensive person.

Here is a simple letter to a toxic past to make you forget your worries.

Hello,
I sincerely appreciate the times we spent together.
I must confess that it teaches me the greatest lesson of life.
However, I must confess that our union is very toxic and will do both my present and future more harm than good if I don't break apart. Even though my past was toxic(life of an undiscovered purpose) I never pass blame game on it. When I compare how happy I am now to the the past, I see reasons to keep smiling
Though, you are not a bad fellow. Just that it is necessary to fall apart NOW so as to understand what it means to be whole.

I wish you well in all your ways.

To you my toxic past,
Acme.

heal yourself!

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