The Outdated Concept of Monogamy

 Many times throughout my life I have needed my ability to read people in order to survive and the story on this women’s face was one of complete regret in regards to this particular relationship choice. Seeing this look coupled with the brief, help me, look painted across her gaze reminded me of how I felt about this whole idea of marriage and monogamy. Those feelings being that they are both complete bullshit. Now don’t get me wrong, for some I think marriage is a great idea. If somebody were to find the person who they feel they can’t live without, someone who enhances and enriches their life, supports and encourages them to become their best self, and returns those feelings and characteristics, then hell yeah, they should be together forever. For the majority however, the idea of one true love, soul mates, blah blah blah, just seems unrealistic. Great idea for movie plots but seems dysfunctional for real life.  

what about everything else I need to learn, what about all the other experience I need to become a fuller, more evolved person? It’s usually at this point where women would say, Oh, he just wants to have sex with other people, or guys would say, she’s just a nympho or whatever derogatory term used to try and take down stronger more open-minded, more evolved women, which leads me to my next thought.  

. She belongs to me, stay away! He’s mine, hands off! Or even the thought (manifested by ego or insecurity) that This person must not love me or I must not be good enough. And I ask, why must consensual non-monogamous relationships be looked at like that when it seems the most logical and beneficial choice for all involved? Why can't it be a peaceful, life-enhancing addition to an important relationship? Just be honest and up front about it. Don’t be a dick. I get that some people are driven by ego or for whatever reason are insecure (I’ll tackle those subjects in later posts), but I think we forget far too often what our purpose in life really is. We are here to experience, learn, and engage in as many of life’s offerings as possible, so that when our time comes we can exhale our last breath with a warm heart, full smile, and an enriched soul.