This would describe my mother, pretty closely. I can't describe how devastating this has been to my family and myself during the course of our lifetimes. Emotional separation from the narcissist is required in order to heal. Needless to say, this does not bode well for family relationships after the emotional separation. Massive feelings of guilt, doubt, fear, anger, and frustration - for a period of many years - must be sorted through. It is not an easy process. In fact, it is a complete pain in my @$$, on most days of my life.