The Big Wait - Today Is the Due Date
Father's and Mother's...do you remember your first child pregnancy and the anticipation you had when the due date arrived?
I haven't wrote a steemit post in a while but I felt like this morning I would have this "journal entry style" to let off some steam about this process. Not that it is not great or joyous but it's a very strange time to say the least.
Already But Not Yet
So, today, is our baby's due date. May 29th 2018...there were moments in the last few days where we had the feeling that the process of early labor was well on it's way only to wake up the next morning and the process stopped.
It's a very strange feeling to have something that can happen at any time that will change our lives forever, anticipation is at it's highest yet we can't stop living and doing our day to day routine and activities.
Can you relate? Please share your stories below
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We are actively looking and testing different ways to "promote" labor to start. But we are going through a weird paradox...on the one side, we don't want to rush the baby and let nature run it's course. On the other side, we can't wait to see her face and to move on to the next stage of our lives.
I would love to hear some of your wisdom about that, we are all different and have different experiences.
I can't wait to read what you have to say.
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The anticipation is usually high. I haven’t had a personal experience yet, although I can’t wait, but I have close people to me who have experienced it. In a certain occasion I was there with the couples. They waited for the moment like it would be the end of the world. But it was not just the beginning. The beginning of another thing in their lives, the were really anticipating the next step.
It is usually best to let nature run its course though. Most advisable to allow it flow naturally. All the same I wish her safe delivery
Do it the hardest way!!! Just wait 😉
lol @nickskywalker :P
I understand the jitters and mixed emotions you feel, @cryptoctopus. It's like it's pretty hard to go on with your daily life knowing that anytime the baby's gonna come out. Anyway, hoping for a safe delivery and a happy baby! Cheers and congratulations!
How exciting! Due dates are funny things. Almost all of our pregnancies went over (except the twins, which were almost exactly 40 weeks and that is late for twins). Our first was almost three weeks over. Due dates are really only estimations. Doctors can start to get concerned after 41-42 weeks, but we had home births and our midwives never felt like medical inducement was necessary.
My wife tried all kinds of things to help move it along, maybe they helped, maybe not. We'd go on walks, she'd sit on an exercise ball, we'd even have sex because she heard that semen softens the cervix. Haha. I think she took some castor oil for one of the pregnancies. DYOR there. It has a laxative effect and is believed to help induce labor as well. There are some chiropractic maneuvers that can help break her water, but you don't really want that until labor has actually started but is moving very slowly, as it did for my wife.
Cheers again to you two. It is an exciting time, but also very strange, like you said, to be stuck in this in between place.
I remember and it is a bit terrifying, honestly. It was very challenging for quite some time but also very rewarding. Make sure you do your best to help Ms. Cryptoctopus, especially at night. Make sure your/her mental health has a chance for a breather every once-in-a-while. I'm sure you've heard this before, but sometimes just going for a drive with the kid can help when nothing else seems to work.
Oh, you become a father. It means a legal obligation to provide for the child you just brought to this world.
After having it, you remember a lot of stuff that you have probably forgotten. As they grow, images, sounds, and images come to your mind from a distant past when you were more or less that age.
Consequences are evident in your body as you stop sleeping, sometimes altogether to anticipate the future, change diapers or soothe a scared child. You develop a new set of skills that let you perform tasks that you probably hadn't dreamed of.
Money becomes a real concern and talking to your partner about the little ones can become troublesome due to the deep love you both feel about them.
Little by little, if you want of course, you turn into a 2.0 version of your parents, with new improved Internet capabilities and heuristic system to detect lies.
Having a child also makes you more sensitive to other children's suffering. You develop a sort of love for all the children in the world sometimes.
All in all, you learn to change and adapt because your little one(s) will make your days change light-speed fast.
Wow....I guess this a big day for you and a hearty congratulations will be in place.
It's really great that all you have is anticipation and you don't seem to be nervous at all... Most first time parents are usually scared as anything.
I would actually not suggest rushing the labour but let it run naturally, I guess you'll be told that in the hospital as well.
And yeah, don't let her remain confined to the bed. She can walk around if she wants to or take any position that's comfortable for her. Pacing actually helps uterine contractions as well.
Hope to see the baby's face here soon. :)
Giving birth is real great moment and today will definitely be a day to remember. I'm not married yet and so don't have a child but I had a first hand experience two years ago when one of my aunty wanted to deliver.
She was expecting the due date to be in like 5 days time so nobody expected the baby to come that day. The husband has left house for work very early in the morning. She started having the feeling around 8:00am but she taught it was nothing serious. I was called out from my room around 10:00am to come and drive her to the hospital. I was with her with one of my sisters. To cut the long story short, she delivered the baby right in front of the hospital before we could carried her in. We had to rush in to call the nurses outside to attend to her and take her in.
She is such a strong woman. I've always heard but not seen a woman giving birth on her own. That was my first experience. It's was just easy for her. I was told she gave birth to her first child easily too.
As you said, let the nature run it's course.
I wish your wife a save delivery
I wish your wife a very safe delivery..
Congratulation for her delivery day in advance
Oh wow...yeah it has been a while!
Congratulations first for your baby. Babies are beautiful inclusions in our lives and yes their arrivals changes our lives forever and if we allow, it could be a wonderful lesson for personal adjustments.
I'm not a father but i can give an advice for this season, which is:
Saying the right words
You're expecting a new life, a new future in a small body ready to be nurtured and words are very important.
The right words woukd give you strength, strengthen your spouse and also give an enabling environment for your new baby.
I wish you the best with this one!