Reasons why most women don't find true love

in #poetry6 years ago

REASONS WHY MOST WOMEN DON’T FIND TRUE LOVE

It is true they say nothing good comes easy but believe me when I say we are the product of our thought and mindset, our experiences, our ideas, our dreams and wishes do affect how we react and accept things we see around us. Finding true love or a perfect guy may not be as rosy as it sounds but it really involves risking ones heart and commitment , Every woman’s wish is to end up in a happy marriage but there are factors that deny many ladies the ability of finding true love;

ABILITY TO DIFFERENTIATE YOUR WANTS FROM YOUR NEEDS
Many of our ladies still finds it difficult to differentiate between the kind of guy they need and that which they want, many will keep on hunting for what I call a “picture perfect “guy i.e. a guy with features every woman should admire which most times may not work for them, some ladies will run away from a guy who is ready to be that perfect man in her life for material reasons. Ladies should understand that what appears to be perfect for miss A may differ from that of miss B, it is advised that while painting a picture of what your perfect guy or Mr. right should look like, ladies should also watch out for behaviorswallpaper-lonely-girl-broken-heart.jpg they could accommodate and that which they can’t put up with for the rest of their life instead of seeking public admiration.

UNFORGIVENESS
A young lady’s past bitter experience in most cases do influence her chances of finding true love, a young girl who grows up knowing her dad as a drunkard, a woman beater and a womanizer feels all men acts and behaves same way, more also a young lady who suffers from heartbreak and betrayal in the hand of her ex feels true love doesn’t exist. For both of them their inability to forgive their past and embrace the future makes it difficult for them to open up their heart and for any guy that comes around.

HIGH EXPECTATION
Some young ladies will say my man should be able to know what a lady likes or want, others will say if he can’t pay all my bills then there is no need dating him, while more matured ladies from the ages of 28 and above will just expect nothing more than marriage talks and engagement immediately they just accept to date a guy. Sometimes or most times things work for different people in different ways, carrying high expectations into a relationship only kills the fun of it. The fact that your man isn’t romantic doesn’t make him the wrong guy neither is his financial status nor his delay in engagement, most times men are pushed into marriage ideas by the compatibility and comfort they feel around a lady. Instead of carrying high expectations on how your relationship should be, while not channel your strength into building a very strong intimacy with your man and earn more respect by being part of his success story, this can help make him think about marriage faster instead.