When Will People Realize That the Happiness Is Within Them?

in #philosophy8 years ago

I met my old classmates yesterday to catch up after 6 years. It was a very fun night and all, but I just realized one thing: Everyone was talking about their lives from the career and family point of view. It seemed that the only way to measure (I don't see the point of that, though) how everyone was doing for the last couple of years was to look into their finances and another halfs. No one seemed interested in talking about their feelings inside of them.

Do people really think that it is the outside factors that make them happy? Do people still think that a better car and more beautiful husband/wife will make them feel good? I mean, how naive is that? I wish that people would finally realize that money cannot buy you happiness. I know that you think that everyone knows this cliche phrase. However, I doubt that many of us understand it. After all, those who repeat this phrase a lot are usually the ones who sacrifice their dreams for an extra dollar (or Steem for that matter!).

And I will never say that money is not important because it is. Without money, we cannot do anything and we are doomed to spend our lives in misery, only thinking about surviving. Of course, unless we are some sort of Buddhas... but as far as I am concerned, I am nothing even close to Buddha! That is why economic freedom is important. However, it never brings happiness.

So, can people ever be happy? I really doubt that. Not because I wouldn't want this to be true, but because the world is programmed for the majority of people to suffer because of their silliness. Good thing is that we have all the time in the world to fix that and start looking at things just the way they are. And that's happiness, my friends!

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Hey sweetheart! All very true stuff, happiness many times is a choice. Actually my step son said something the other day, "I'm the anomaly of the family, I chose pretty things over happiness." What he means is that he trades his time doing something he's not overjoyed about for money to buy things, most of which he's overjoyed about fleetingly. My husband and I long ago decided life is too short not to do the things you love, or to do things you hate for things you think you want. It's not possible to be happy a hundred percent of the time, but it is possible to be happy a great deal. It's a decision and perspective. I can go to my parents house and choose to gripe about something and not even see the beautiful lake spread out before me, or I can look at the beautiful lake and forget what it was I had to gripe about.

You mentioned cliche, well another is the glass half full/half empty one. But it is so true. Say if you wanted to buy a house and it cost a hundred thousand and you have fifty thousand in the bank. You could either be upset that you are only halfway there or you can be happy that you are already halfway there. It's just a matter of perspective, the circumstance hasn't changed only the way you see it.

Hi there! Long time no see! I hope you are doing well, my dear friend!
And yeah, I totally agree with all you said. I believe that I already understood that our well-being purely depends on our perspective but not things we have/things we want. Naturally, sometimes it is too hard to live by this rule, but as long as I keep reminding myself that, I guess I'll be fine. Glad to hear that you have the same feeling about this matter!

Happiness depends on us. We must never give up dreaming and fighting for your ideals! All the best for you.

That is very true!

It took me 33 years to realize what happiness really is. People tend to forget about the little things that feed our soul!

Yup, and those things are so often the most important ones!

life is what you make it.

i'm working to make it happiness, by having faith, I change all my thoughts to expect the best, and usually get it, and deal with what comes with serene contentment that I can handle it, and do.

the mind is a garden, what you grow manifest in the real world, tend it well.

peace brother.

Excellent post, very well articulated. thank you so much.