This is why men hate good advice
Never ever give a man advice unless he asks for it. But tell him that you have confidence in his ability to solve things.
We men must feel that we are capable of resolving our own problems and we see discussing these problems with others as taxing that person. We will not even bother our best friend, unless we thinks that friend might know a better solution.
When a woman tries to get a man to talk about his feelings or problems, he resists because he considers this as a criticism or is afraid that she thinks that he is failing and that she has a better solution for him. In reality her goal is to give him a better feeling. For a woman, offering advice is equivalent to building trust in a relationship.
It is not seen as a sign of weakness!
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Inspired by Allan and Barbara Pease
I hope you are well!!
David
Hi @steemspoker. Sometimes a man needs a gentle kick in the ass. It's not about just advice, a man refuses to ask for directions even if he's been lost for hours.
True :-)
women will never understand us
That's a good thing right? :-)
I think both men and women have their flaws and we've gotta learn to accept these like adults and move onto more important things.
Don´t take it to serious!
Hmm - firstly congratulations for putting down and sharing a subject that is obviously very close to you. I would have say that you are generalizing a lot - not all men may feel quite the same way you do and may be comfortable for constructive feedback from a significant other. Also - it depends on the situation. There are a large number of issues where a person (male or female - this is not as gender specific as you think) can be given the time to work their own way through. But a number of issues are toxic - drugs, alcohol, gambling or marriage breakdown as examples. These need immediate intervention - not just when the upset person is finally prepared to address it.
From this blog you have shown a good display of empathy with other readers and it is good to read. Thanks.
Thanks for your comment!
Don't take it to seriously please, this is not written in rock :-)
Haha - you're right and I "accept" your advice to chill :-)
hahaha :-)
Be your secondself.
Hello! First I would like to say thank you for the postcards I won! Despite all the vagaries of the post office they arrived! I love them.
Secondly, my advice is never to give advice about anything unless specifically asked. And even then make sure the person who is asking genuinely wants advice. Otherwise you are both wasting time.
I have found men to be problem solvers, and from a woman's perspective, I will discuss my problems to air my feelings, and then have to sit through unsolicited and unwanted advice.
That's late!! Months. Good you have them now.
I try to learn to take the advice of my inner being.
In the end things work out anyway :-)
I really believe that venting problems does not help unless you work in an emotionally solution-oriented way.
I like your comment!!
Have a good one.