Hello Mere,
I'm sorry I missed this when you posted, and so very sorry to learn of your loss of these dear ones, and at such early ages! :O
Don't let cancer claim you, my friend. It's never too early to learn that the vast majority of westerners have been hoodwinked by the medical/industrial complex. I'm glad you've taken this to heart, and I hope that you'll bookmark and read up on these sites in advance:
http://cancertutor.com
https://beating-cancer-gently.com/
http://chrisbeatcancer.com
There are other good sites, but those three are outstanding.
My personal, very sad experience has been that those friends and relatives I know who chose to consult with and follow the "guidance" of oncologists contemporary witch doctors all have one thing in common now—they are all dead.
The only cancer survivors that I know are all alive today because they took what are slighted and disparaged by "professionals" and in the media as "alternate" routes.
Bless you, my friend!