RE: Mutualism - You scratch my back and I'll scratch urs
Yes, that would be ideal.
If I know what a person's motivation is, then it makes more logical sense.
If you see in recent news, particularly with some churches and charities, sometimes their "motovations" were kept in shadow for a long time.
Also, we are limited for time and it is impossible to not maintain the Self in some way.
If you and I can agree and accept our motivations, then a transaction takes place which works out well.
When I was younger I refused gifts that were offerred for helping someone. My motivation was to help for free. This backfired with 2 Malaysian friends who were insulted that I refused their gifts. One was for being a strong friend and the other for helping him with his studies. After upsetting them, I changed my cultural sensitivities and I now accept any gifts with a clear Thank You 😃