I once saw a girl in a cafe. I’d been seeing her for weeks, around, and she seemed perfect: smart, pretty and likeable. I knew she’d be my exact type. Yet I had a horrible timidness whenever I saw her. I wanted to talk to her at some point, but I didn’t know when.
There’s a horrible group which I know vaguely, and stay courteous towards, despite telling them off bossily when they’re jerks, that acts in an unintentionally sexist way. If I told them that, they’d be shocked and deny it. But they spend lots of time looking on their phones at pictures of girls which they’re delighted to know and comparing. I once walked past and heard them ranking their “friends”’ cleavages, to use their word, out of 10. They don’t have jobs, help around, or do anything. They’re a group of drop-outs without any urge to stop being so.
And I saw one member of the group. Now, he’s truly a nice person, and he’s a guy who stops them when they go too far, or start being jerky. He likes them simply through admiration: he sees them as sharp-tongued and clever, and he wants to be like them. He helps around, and does stuff, but he likes to think of himself as one of the team. He can do much better than them, but I didn’t try to stop him until a few weeks ago.
One day, I saw him looking uncomfortable as she pinched his ass. He was cringing away, and was attempting to seem fine with it, but any fool would know he wasn’t. The group’s response was to laugh at their friend, and their words included ‘Lucky you!’ When I saw this, I managed to get him to come with me in a way that would make it look like it was my decision, and then gave her a scowl.
The next day, I heard them all laughing, and the girl saying ‘That dude is so stressy!’ I’m not stressy. I just don’t think that groping somebody immediately becomes fine just because the perpetrator is female.
The first thing people notice about other people (esp. strangers) are their looks. However with constant close interaction with that "attractive person", people can't help feel but get used to his/her looks making them slightly less attractive.
Plus, the issue of one's attitude which greatly defines a person and trumps his/her physical features. Someone physically "attractive" to many but with a very bad attitude is at no surprise not that "attractive" to many after some time.
I once saw a girl in a cafe. I’d been seeing her for weeks, around, and she seemed perfect: smart, pretty and likeable. I knew she’d be my exact type. Yet I had a horrible timidness whenever I saw her. I wanted to talk to her at some point, but I didn’t know when.
There’s a horrible group which I know vaguely, and stay courteous towards, despite telling them off bossily when they’re jerks, that acts in an unintentionally sexist way. If I told them that, they’d be shocked and deny it. But they spend lots of time looking on their phones at pictures of girls which they’re delighted to know and comparing. I once walked past and heard them ranking their “friends”’ cleavages, to use their word, out of 10. They don’t have jobs, help around, or do anything. They’re a group of drop-outs without any urge to stop being so.
And I saw one member of the group. Now, he’s truly a nice person, and he’s a guy who stops them when they go too far, or start being jerky. He likes them simply through admiration: he sees them as sharp-tongued and clever, and he wants to be like them. He helps around, and does stuff, but he likes to think of himself as one of the team. He can do much better than them, but I didn’t try to stop him until a few weeks ago.
One day, I saw him looking uncomfortable as she pinched his ass. He was cringing away, and was attempting to seem fine with it, but any fool would know he wasn’t. The group’s response was to laugh at their friend, and their words included ‘Lucky you!’ When I saw this, I managed to get him to come with me in a way that would make it look like it was my decision, and then gave her a scowl.
The next day, I heard them all laughing, and the girl saying ‘That dude is so stressy!’ I’m not stressy. I just don’t think that groping somebody immediately becomes fine just because the perpetrator is female.
Yep!
The first thing people notice about other people (esp. strangers) are their looks. However with constant close interaction with that "attractive person", people can't help feel but get used to his/her looks making them slightly less attractive.
Plus, the issue of one's attitude which greatly defines a person and trumps his/her physical features. Someone physically "attractive" to many but with a very bad attitude is at no surprise not that "attractive" to many after some time.