How to strengthen a relationship by avoiding discussion of problems

Sometimes, it's clear things need to change for the better. Let's look at common signs.

You repeat the same things. Conflicts follow the same patterns. You talk about an issue and decide on something, but the issue comes up again.

This means you need to step back. Look at how you're trying to fix the problem. Doing the same thing won't work. You may feel helpless.

Anger and frustration build up. This can cause big problems. It can even lead to a breakup.

Analyze the problems that keep happening. Agree to act differently.

For example, if you always yell about dirty dishes, try praising your partner for washing them. If you usually get mad and leave, stay and talk about a compromise.

It's hard to see these cycles and break them alone. A therapist can help, especially if you've been together a long time.

You Don't Talk About Problems or Needs

You don't discuss what bothers you in the relationship. You complain to friends or family instead.

Talking to your partner can be scary. You might worry about upsetting them. But not talking about a problem means it can't be fixed. This can lead to manipulation and pain.

Couples avoid talking for different reasons. Maybe they don't know how. In this case, use questions for couples. You can find these online. There are also special notebooks and games. Take turns answering to better explain what you need.

For example: "What makes you happy in our relationship?" "Do you have any secret dreams?" "What made you laugh today?" Listen closely and be honest for this to work.

It's harder if talking leads to strong emotions and fights. Then, these games can cause more problems. A therapist can help you understand each other. They can show you why you get so emotional.

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