To be confident, do not say that 9 habits!

in #motivation7 years ago

                   

          The most beautiful thing you can wear is confidence
                                               
– Blake Lively 


Different people possess different qualities. Again, different types of qualities help people to do different types of work nicely. But there is a quality that you can not do any work properly if you are not in the middle. Yes, I'm talking about confidence. Let's see if you are responsible for some of your habits behind destroying this essential quality to succeed in life.


1. Spend extra time in unnecessary work:

There is some quality in the world, but sadly, many of us spend so much time in unnecessary work, so we can not find those qualities through doing the necessary things.


Because of which they always think of themselves as very trivial. Again, if you wake up all night, you should be sorry to waste your whole night before going to bed.



This feeling of regret and despair of yours diminishes your confidence. Rather than try to use the productive ones, as long as you can not get it. Recreation is a must, but it does not cause any harm to you.

                        

2. Always wait for someone else's consent:

You are your greatest judge. Nobody can judge your actions better than you do in your situation. So, rather than asking someone else, "What is the right thing?"


Otherwise you will become very dependent on others. As soon as you work with everyone's opinion, you will feel confused.


"Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers, you can not be successful or happy ".

                                                    - Norman Vincent Peale


3. Thinking too much about the past:

There is a word in Hindi, "Night Gaye, Arte Gei", which has gone, has gone. If you think of old, there is no benefit to it, but instead of thinking of "how many mistakes have been done in my life", it seems to myself that it is small and the confidence of doing something new in the future decreases immediately.

                     

4. Thinking about the future:

Always thinking about the future will always face the negative aspects of the future. We all know that the future is uncertain, but this does not mean that what we're expecting is nothing worse than it is in the future.


It may also be that in the future we are waiting for something so good that we never thought. So there will be good things in the future to keep this mind in mind.


5. Fear to depend on others:

We often think of doing a lot of work that nobody can do better than me. But after believing with some other work, even if he can do the job well, it also creates confidence.


6. O before seen T:

In business education we read a term called SWOT Anaysis, where O is the Opportunity and T is Threat So here it is because of the fact that after seeing the T, it becomes the reason for decreasing self-confidence.


7. Minimize yourself in words:

I had a habit, when something bad happened around me, I would say, "Wherever I go I will go, all will be destroyed". And when he heard this, mother would be very angry. Later on, when my sister said the same thing to me, that day I understood why mother was angry.

                                     

This is a very bad way of expressing himself in such a way. If a person goes to his ears repeatedly saying, "You can not do", then once the man is not able to do it, then think that what can be the result if you yourself say such a negative thing!


8. Comparing yourself with others:

Manasseh can not be satisfied with anything compared to others, and the first condition of self-confidence is self-satisfaction. Be your own kind of perfect!


9. Extra cuss about your own scales:

There is nothing wrong with all people. The more shifting it will be to them, the more harmful there will be. Rather, let's think about how they can be made more focused, considering their own characteristics, not thinking about them.


"Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement Nothing can be done without hope and confidence. "


This statement by Helen Keller, the author of US writers, is understandable by the necessity of self-confidence. However, remember that nothing extra is good. More confidence is more harmful than the lack of self-confidence, such as excess self-confidence.