Dear chbartist, i don't know if you were reading my mind or maybe its just pure coincidence that you post about the effect of words on our subconscious today. Thats because yesterday night at 9pm, my little sis woke me up crying about my mum who just insulted her and probably said some things that hurt her. After calming her down and advising her a little she finally stopped crying. That night it came to my realization that it wasn't the fact that she was insulted that night that made her cry, it was actually the accumulation and repition of hurtful and negative words being said to her before in the past probably in the surge of anger, that piled up and finally made her breakdown that night. I for one also feel that the person saying the positive words is as important as the word itself. We all in one way or the other want to hear people that we know and love such as our family and friends tell us soothing and encouraging words of how we've made them proud but most times its always the opposite, such as in my sister case. So my little advise is that at every opportunity we get we should tell or fams or friends or colleague how much we love and appreciate their effort and how much we're proud of them. However as much as it is nice to hear our loved ones say positive thing to and about us, we however must not grow too dependent on that, this is cause if we lived our life or take into account what people say, we would live our life in constant depression, because people are insatiable. We should therfore build s a self mechanism, to always say positive words to ourselves even when the people around are saying the opposite. So in the spirit of positivity, i want to say weldone chbartist, your posts are inspiring and deep, you're an excellent writer.