How to Approach Your Over-Sensitivity and Irritability?
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Some people tend to be over-sensitive in their social affairs, to the point of easily getting irritated by everything personal that others have to say about them.
Over-sensitivity can be a devastating character flaw, to the point of compromising your relationships and jeopardizing your opportunities. If you get irritated by even the most insignificant occurrences, if you exaggerate everything other people say about you or look to find a negative meaning in every expression, then these are signs that you are over-sensitive.
Your irritability will eventually lead to your friends being irritated by your mentality, since they constantly have to be careful not to say something that would hurt your feelings or make you sad or angry. It can also lead to loss of tranquility and happiness, as it gives your mind an excuse to constantly look for things that make you unhappy.
If you have such tendencies as the ones listed above, then you need to know that you are not alone and that you CAN actually do something about your over-sensitivity. In this blog posts, I am going to list some approaches that can help you fight back against your constant need for emotional satisfaction through your irrational idealism.
Perhaps the first step towards fighting back irritability is resisting the idea of taking everything personally. People who are over-sensitive tend to think that the whole world is out to get them. This belief is irrational on all levels of sensibility, as it promotes a fallacious and shrouded worldview of hatred and doubt.
We may come to meet a lot of people who can hurt us, but that does not mean that everyone is inclined to do so in random words and acts of cruelty and spitefulness.
Over-sensitivity is usually a strain of irrational thought. If you begin to really think with your logic and sensible arguments, you begin to realize that your problem may be a lack of deeper thought. But how can you utilize your logic?
Talk to yourself. The next time you come to the realization that you may be over-sensitive, try to talk to yourself and think with logical arguments about your situation. Why are you so sensitive? Why should you become miserable because of something that other people say?
How much value do you put on their statements, and how well-founded are they?
These are all the questions that you need to immediately ask yourself. Do not focus on your misery, focus on finding a solution and trying to get rid of it once and for all.
Now this may be a tough one, but in order to beat over-sensitivity, you sometimes need to put yourself in the other person’s shoes. If they hurt you, try to see everything from their perspective.
That way you might begin to realize that things were not as serious or upsetting as you thought they were. You may even be able to analyze their critique and invalidate their statements.
A lot of people tend to get upset when their beliefs and values are threatened. It is as if they see their identity and existence purely as the amalgamation of their values and beliefs, and when the opposite of such values and beliefs are stated, they feel that their identity is in danger of being discredited or wronged.
What these people need to understand is that they are so much more than the sum of their beliefs. Their identity and existence are not reliant on beliefs, for these ideas and values are constantly changing and expanding, opening up new horizons for us as they evolve.
Without independent thought, it is easy to accept what everyone wants you to think. If you suppress your power of thought in this manner, you will fall into the pit of depression and irritability, all the while losing your grip on the balance of your life.
From now on, try fight your over-sensitivity with thought, logic and sensibility.
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Dear @chbartist sir!
Insensitivity in us comes only when there is no good happening in our lives. Irritability is a product of our negative thinking. There are many reasons for irritability in us. Occasionally there are domestic problems. The surrounding environment is contaminated. Due to problems with failures The burden of too many expectations also causes irritation and apart from this our envy nature also causes irritability. It's not that the irritability never ends. Keeping in touch with good people, by adjusting the circumstances, remove the inferiority of mind, avoid the loneliness, etc.
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That's a good way of putting it. Kind of like using it as an internal warning system, alerting us to things going on in our lives that aren't right for us.
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You nailed it in your response! Your suggestions are very good food for thought – and action.
perhaps, no harm will be done for as long as you're not blinded by any negative reaction. if being overly-sensitive will ruin relationships, then carefully assess the situation first and see if it's worth it. sometimes, words have biting effects in the heart that cannot be easily erased.
Good write up. Over sensitivity or hyper sensitivity need not be a self-destructive trait though. I know I"ve always had a high level of emotional sensitivity. This has meant that it was easy for me to be drawn into other people's emotions in the past, but with a strong person grounding it's also been of huge benefit to me.
For instance, I can read people very well, which was a huge benefit when I was working in sales. I can build rapport with people very well and I can also pick up on things that are troubling people, or use it as a warning system against dishonest or unscrupulous people.
Emotional sensitivity can be a huge benefit, it just means that people who don't have enough self-awareness to separate themselves from other people's emotions can caught up in their drama.
Great write up, mate.
Once you find where you’re sensitive, an emotional salve helps ease the sting. Maybe you need to be alone for a while. That’s okay. It’s also okay to ask for help. My favorite relief is spending quality time with friends, but I sometimes have trouble asking for that.
I used think that asking for help was a sign of weakness in me. When I helped my friends, I never judged them as being weak. They were simply going through a rough time, and I wanted to help make them feel better.
That’s when I realized that not asking for their help denied them a chance to be my friend. I now feel that asking for help is like giving a gift. I’m giving my friends something they want...... a chance to be my friend.
Maybe I need a distraction, and we just hang out together. Maybe I need to talk through what happened, to figure out how to stop it from happening again. It doesn’t matter. I tell them what I need, they provide it happily, and we both feel better.
Calm yourself. When you notice that you're feeling anxious, excited, angry or upset, you can learn to recognize your body reacting to those feelings. When you do, relaxation techniques like meditation, exercise, massage, and deep breathing can help to calm both your body and your mind.
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Hi @chbartist!
It takes time. Can be done by understanding the dynamics you explain well. It's important so that we are not caught up. Myself too am a similar kind of guy, more sensitive that required. But am lucky to get proper. Mentorship. Thanks, your post was inspiring.
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Emotional sensitivity is a healthy sign, but oversensitivity can have negative effects. Hypersensitive people often feel left out, but these feelings can be the result of their assumptions or misconceptions about others. If people misinterpret their daily interactions, they will be unhappy and lead unhealthy lives. Find a balance between sensitivity and common sense, confidence and resilience so that you don't get stuck with the little things in life.
Thank you for sharing this important post with us @chbartist.
First of all we all have to deal with this topic, we have to accept that we are susceptible to it more or less.
Then I think it is also important to make yourself clear what you actually want, and then go this way.
Surely there will be many situations that will cause those old fears and feelings again, but hey it doesn't matter what the others think or say about it, it's your way, your goal, let the others do what they want and do the same.
In more than 30 years as an entrepreneur I have had to take a lot, I had to learn even more, I had to come to terms with a lot of things. I often ran into a wall, fell deeply several times but never stopped, but stood up again and again no matter what my environment said or thought, hey it was my life my mistakes from which I was allowed to learn.
It came so far that I was the one who was allowed to train others how to get through such situations and build something for themselves.
There is always something better in front of us on the way than behind us, the life plays in here and now no matter what others say and think, it is your way, your life, your success, you give the weapons to the others so choose wisely.
with sunny greetings from Andalusia
Don Thomas
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Dear Chbartist and his fellows,
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I think over-sensitivity and Irritability it's a great Obstacle to become a perfect human, those make a distance of our relationship with people and make a great communication gap between us. And gradually it's make us frustrated, and maximum time when we can understood that it was so late to correction, hope those people who read your article they have a chance to justify themself and will be approach like that you said.
Thank you all.
When we’re in pain, blaming the person who hurt us is a natural defense mechanism. We project our pain outward as anger, rather than turning our attention inward to heal. Are we accusing someone of making us feel worthless, Unattractive,Unloved and unlovable?
Naming the accusation lets us dig beneath it to find the sensitive spot it’s protecting, and see what’s really going on. @chbarstist
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Friend @chbartist,Your today's article is also very good.
It is important that you try to define which of these reasons you apply, to understand the development of your introspection and to understand why you think this way, it will be impossible to change your behavior.
Thanks for sharing
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