My_advice_to_single_ladies (Why You Must Not Marry the Man You Love )
It is very bad that the present generation sees marriage as something ordinary. That is why we see people walk in and out of marriages as if it is a market place.
Marriage is a vow and every vow has a responsibility. For instance, it is the man's marital duty to love and be faithful to his wife and also the woman's duty to respect and be faithful to her husband. This is mandatory not optional.
Having a good knowledge of your responsibilities in marital relationship is the major criteria needed from every unmarried person before going into marriage. This is why in some tradition, a man is considered ready to marry the moment he becomes responsible.
Most of our marital relationship problem originates from us ignoring our duty. For instance, a man seeking respect when he is not loving or being faithful, or a woman expecting love when she is not respecting.
Sometimes I hear statements like; "i won't marry him, because i don't love him" from ladies. Even when the man in question is trying everything he could to prove his love. Being carried away by this emotional thing many called love, some of these ladies ends up marrying someone who ends up becoming a thorn on their flesh.
It is rare to see a marital relationship built on the foundation of a woman's love only surviving marital hardship. Such women's love usually end up as a sacrifice.
It is also good to note that love is not an emotional thing or the hormonal agitation we use to feel, rather, it is a conscious and willful understanding of our responsibilities and also developing the discipline needed to execute those responsibilities. Love is an ability to be displayed and it has no boundaries for those who has it.
Love comes with a responsibility and that was why Jesus himself said " if you love me, keep my commandments".
I believe whole-heartedly that every responsible man can marry any responsible woman even in the absence of any emotional attachment and their relationship will work out fine.
The growing rate of divorce in our society is not a failure of marriage or lack of emotional love, but a prove of the growing rate of irresponsibility in our society.
Am not saying that it is bad for a woman to marry the man she loves. Far from that; nature has made women in such a way that they can love back easily when loved.
What am saying is that you need to be more responsible when it comes to marriage. Instead of being carried away by hormones, open your eyes to observe how responsible the person you are loving is when it comes to dealing with people. Reason being that love is only an instrument for the responsible.
May God give you the wisdom to prepare yourself to the level of becoming a responsible wife and to make a good choice of husband.
Marry him if he is responsible and professes his love for you.