Step three of confidence: Maintaining balance

Earlier, we've learned to be an effective communicator by changing style of handling critical situations. In this blog, we shall understand in depth that how to maintain the balance in thoughts. Let's take 'brain' for example to understand, we all know that a human brain has two parts: Right brain and left brain.

Right brain thinks creatively while your left brain thinks from a critical side of life. Often, we tend to commit such mistake; where-in we jumbled up the thoughts in our mind and by doing this, either we couldn't able to come to a concrete decision or we messed things up & both the situations won't take you anywhere. Whether it's your personal of professional life, communication clashes will always be there. It's not a situation, where-in the other person is right and you're wrong or vice-versa, its just the fact that both are not understanding to settle this clash through effective communication & sometimes, it reached to a stage, where it becomes uncontrollable. Only, we have to analyse the situation well by being an active listener, so that the discussion won't become argument.

By saying this, it meant that maintaining a strict balance between two most effective sides of communication; first is listen and second is speak. If one knows perfectly well to gauze the situation & understand two most important points:

When to speak?

How to listen?

A proactive listener can be a wonderful communicator but a communication, can't be a good listener. While listening, we are not just understanding certain complex topics well but also gaining adequate knowledge towards that.

Let's do a point-wise analysis of this:

Observe keenly:

Wherever you are, whatever you are doing, just start observing people around you while you talk, walk or simply look. Try and understand how effectively or badly they are communicating?, see the body gestures, they are making, voice modulation, energy level, presentation techniques, convincing ability, quick decision-making & judging the other person in a jiffy.

In-depth Analyse:

Deeply connected to the step above i.e. to observe the surrounding and people. As now you started focusing on people communication style during business meetings, presentations or one-to-one discussions being done at your office, home or outside. You are not only learning the attributes of an amazing communicator but also at times, if required, you also acquire the skills to be more flexible in your approach because now you have learned to see things from other points of view & converting yourself into a strong contender of sharing ideas and opinions effectively.

Practice, Practice & Practice:

Now, the final part is not to copy the other's style, rather you have to behave naturally but as per the situations, respond to the listener/speaker by getting in their shoes. Although, no one in this world is perfect but still 'Practice makes a man Perfect'.