communicate between man and woman
Men don't want to communicate if they can't communicate, while women don't want to continue to communicate if they can't
You will find that a man's silence will appear only after the communication fails to achieve the expected effect. For example, he explains to his girlfriend the reason for coming back late, but the other party doesn't believe him, or he makes sense from his own point of view, but the other party doesn't understand him. At this time, a man will use "silence technique", because in their view, the result of further communication is the same. However, for women, since we don't communicate well and I don't agree with you, we need to continue to communicate until we solve the misunderstanding, laugh and cry
You see, there is really a little gender difference in the matter of differences in communication. Men will choose to calm down and women will choose to find out.
Men think silence can solve problems, women think silence is to avoid problems
When it comes to solving problems and avoiding problems, it does not mean the same problem. What men want to solve is the problem of conflict and dispute, so they will naively think that silence can end the conflict and achieve temporary superficial peace, which seems to solve the problem. But the problem that women really want to solve is the disagreement between two people, or the matter that causes a dispute. Therefore, in their view, men's silence is to avoid the real problem, so women will pursue men's silence.
This is because men and women have different goals for communication. Men's goal is to avoid conflicts, while women's goal is to face and solve all conflicts.
Men like to express their discontent in silence, while women express their discontent in words
From the feedback of a small survey, we can find that men are often emotional when they are silent. Because they are worried that bad emotions will lead to explosive venting, they use silence to suppress and silence to refuse women's willingness to communicate. In fact, this is also an emotional expression. But for women, they are more used to convey their emotions through speech processing. Whether they are happy, sad, sad or angry, language is the best way to express them.
Men think silence is only for the moment, but women think too much about silence
Men generally just want to end the current dispute as soon as possible. They don't think about what the problem itself is, and they don't think about whether they would respond to it in silence in the past, or even whether the silence now comes from their personality or other deep meaning. But in women's view, silence may contain rich information, "does he not love me", "is he guilty", "he just wants to let me", "silence is due to his character", and so on, which will make women more want to break men's silence, or ask after all: "why don't you talk?"
Through the comparison of these differences, you may think that men and women are really like species from different planets. Why do they have such different reactions to quarrels? In other words, why do women choose silence instead of men?
Although there are individual differences between people, there are still some common social traditional factors at work.