Masterbation plays a role in life, but the true unfoldment of bliss through sex, where your sexual ecstacy becomes spiritual is when you are with someone you truly find as beautiful (more than physically beautiful) and there is mutual trust and love. During love, one can look your lover in the face and have true gratitude for sharing that intimate moment with you. Do not rush the closeness. Do not bring a rush to climax. Take sexual stroll with your lover. It is the place we are to feel our heart and our minds bind together as one. Then orgasm although it is still physical it can run up the spine and your emotional self seems to first unfurl be felt more tangibly then you may have ever felt your emotions. Then your heart emboldens and wants to lead your soul forward. Then your heart brings your minds to blend. And a few times on rare occasions (4 times in my life during sex) the state of Samadhi. I am deeply in love with my girlfriend. It is through our times of intimacy that I have achieved my highest vibration ever.....I bring this up because, I do not masterbate if I am to be with her with in the next couple of days, because the reservoir of life force, is what propels me to my highest frequency. So I conserve my appetite for sex because dining with her sexually so much better...