The secret to a happy marriage for women: There are three things you must do in bed
There is a saying:
“The symbol of marriage is not the ring, but the bed.”
Happy marriages are all slept out. A happy relationship must not be separated from three things in bed.
If these three things are done well, you will be in love and grow old together.
If any one is missing, marriage is like a chicken’s rib, tasteless to eat, but a pity to give up.
Emotional interaction in bed
Tagore said:
“Listening is a part of love, because when you love someone, you will listen to her voice.”
Happy couples are couples who can talk together. Before going to bed every night, the two people nestle together, watch TV, chat about trivial matters, and share what they have seen and heard throughout the day. The feelings between the two people will become more and more intimate in the invisible.
Sofia said that the time she and her husband like best is the time to chat before going to bed.
The fun and annoying things encountered that day will be taken out and talked about. As they chat, happiness comes, and annoyance disappears.
The couple’s plans and dreams for the future, and the ridicule and anger about the daily trivial matters, are all discussed in the chat before going to bed.
Sometimes there is nothing special to talk about, and the two people will even chat about entertainment gossip, and the interesting short videos they have brushed.
In short, the time before going to bed is the most relaxed and happiest time for the two people.
There is a saying in “Nonviolent Communication”:
“Listening is to focus on the other person, and it is a concrete manifestation of love.”
The tragedy of love is not parting, but indifference.
Between husband and wife, the desire to share is the greatest romance. Sharing before going to bed will make the two people more and more dependent on each other spiritually, and the feelings will become better and better.
Physical intimacy connection
The desire for food and sex is part of human nature, satisfying each other’s physiological needs is the foundation of a happy marriage, which is also the most basic underlying logic of the existence of marriage.
Sleeping in each other’s arms is the most beautiful and happiest state of sleep.
Natalie has been married for 20 years and is the most loyal practitioner of this.
When there are female friends around who have sexless marriages, Natalie will subtly persuade the other party to consider the necessity of maintaining it, because physiological needs are the most basic logic of the existence of marriage. If there is no most intimate physical connection between husband and wife, no matter how to operate the feelings, it will not be happy.
Sleeping in each other’s arms is the best way to feel happiness.
Psychologists say:
“Physical attraction means a series of changes in physiological indicators. The brain will release dopamine and norepinephrine, making us feel a strong sense of happiness.”
The intimate connection between husband and wife will further narrow the psychological distance and make people feel a stronger sense of happiness.
Love and care in action
Bill is a man with obvious advantages and also prominent shortcomings, but he has been married to Lena for 30 years, and the two people have become the enviable couple that everyone admires.
When Lena talks about Bill, she is always happy:
He is a person with a hasty temper and a bit reckless, but in terms of tolerance and consideration, he is also a first-class good.
Bill is very capable, and he can learn anything, while Lena is just the opposite, learning anything will be slow, and every time Lena is slow, Bill will have a feeling of being impatient.
But his care and love for Lena are also true.
When Lena had her second child, it was Bill who served her personally. Even if Lena was hungry in the middle of the night, Bill would immediately get up and make food for Lena.
A few years ago, Lena had a serious illness, and every day in front of the hospital bed was Bill taking care of her without taking off his clothes.
Not to mention the ordinary days, before going to bed, bringing tea and water, back rubs and foot massages, Bill has done it.
He never says love, and when he is impatient, he will also be impatient, but his love is reflected in the care in front of the bed.
Love is all done, not just said. Action is the best love.
Sociologists say:
“The lowest level of the ideal marriage is nothing more than the couple ‘eating together, sleeping together, and playing together’. As long as a man and a woman can fit each other on the most basic human desires, then the marriage will not be too bad.”
The feelings between people, the various feelings in marriage, you can always verify them in the three things in bed.