What are men who no longer have intimacy with their wives thinking about?

There is a saying:

“Sex is the most primitive natural need of human beings, as simple and beautiful as eating and sleeping.”

However, many couples, after reaching middle age, are left with only the form of marriage.

Especially many middle-aged men, have early opened the sage mode.

In fact, some truths are heartbreaking, and some truths are helpless.

Having an affair, lost interest in the wife

Since having an affair, William has rarely been intimate with his wife.

Although William is guilty, in daily life, William is more considerate and caring for his wife, but in terms of sex, William is really not interested. On the one hand, it is because he is full outside and not hungry, on the other hand, William also wants to express his loyalty to the woman outside the marriage through this way.

William is also afraid that his wife will be suspicious, so in his usual idle talk, he will use self-deprecating tone, magnify his work and life pressure, saying that he is really old and useless.

Because of William’s usual attentiveness and consideration, coupled with his seemingly frank self-deprecation, his wife has never been suspicious, but instead feels his hard work, and even occasionally complains, but just talks about it.

In “Red Rose and White Rose,” there is a saying:

“If a person has no time, it is because he does not want to have time, if a person can’t leave, it is because he doesn’t want to leave, if a person has too many excuses for you, it is because he doesn’t want to care about you.”

The more excuses a man has, the more alarming it is. Because behind the excuses, there are often those unspeakable truths.

The pressure of life is too great, and there is no mood

Middle-aged men often feel lonely because when they open their eyes, they are all people who rely on him, and there are no people he can rely on.

Noah started his own business and opened a construction company. He is in charge of business, and his wife is in charge of finance, which is a spousal partnership. When the business was good before, life was relatively easy. But in recent years, the business has become increasingly difficult, and the business volume has decreased a lot compared to previous years, which has put a lot of pressure on the couple. The relaxed chat time before going to bed has now become a business discussion.

Especially for Noah, the psychological pressure is even greater. Because whether it is in career or family, he is the absolute pillar. If his business expansion is not good, and his business decisions are wrong, the results of years of hard work may be zero in one morning.

When people reach middle age, sandwiched between aging parents and young children, with career pressure in the middle, in such a state, Noah is really not interested in sex.

For such a current situation, Noah’s wife can also understand. As one of the people in the situation, she is also often worried about various life pressures.

When talking about men’s middle age, a wise man said:

Middle age is an age to sell laughter, to please the elderly, to be a role model for children, to pay attention to the wife’s face, and to cater to the boss’s thoughts. Middle age is to keep maneuvering for a living, face, house, car, and money.

Whether it is men or women, middle age is a period that is not easy to get through.

If the couple can understand each other and be considerate of each other, even if the sex life becomes less, the heart is still together.

Feelings are light, and it has become a life partner

There is a saying:

“No matter how happy a marriage is, there will always be 100 thoughts of divorce and 50 impulses to strangle each other in a lifetime.”

Middle-aged man Michael has also thought about divorce many times.

Michael and his wife, driven by impulse and courage when they were young, entered into marriage. But after marriage, they found that their consumption concepts and living habits are quite different.

For example, Michael is thrifty and loyal, honest and reserved, conservative in character, and has a poor acceptance of new things, while Michael’s wife loves beauty and trends, likes singing and dancing, and always wants to make life colorful.

For another example, Michael dotes on his daughter and only wants his daughter to be healthy and happy. And Michael’s wife is an absolute strict mother, believing that only by enduring the greatest hardships can one become exceptional.

In short, because of their various inconsistencies, after 20 years of marriage, the two have had a very bumpy life and have mentioned divorce many times.

But for various reasons, they have barely persisted. After middle age, they feel even more unnecessary to divorce.

However, years of contradictions and frictions, day after day of dullness and tastelessness, they have become indifferent to each other, and there is not much interest.

Michael even joked: My wife and I are now the standard life partners, even more pure than roommates.

They have been together for a long time, and they will change from love to habit, and finally from habit to habitual love.

Marriage, a thousand couples have a thousand ways.

As long as you feel happy, it is a good relationship. If not, you should consider leaving.