MARRIAGE CRISIS IN THE CONTEMPORARY AFRICAN SOCIETY VOL. 2

CONTINUATION OF VOL. 1

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Another factor that can become a touchstone to the sterling peace of a marriage in African is that, at the moment of crises, some couple make the mistake of inviting and submitting to the mistake to the third party, who even unaware of the problem compared with those involved. The resultant effect would be to aggravate the problem than solving it. The problem can actually be to settled if the parties look inwards and tolerate each other.

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When you read SARADA DEVI's quat above and you look back into some marital crises that emerge due to unguided utterances whereby the couple carry their family pride to their marriages to the detriment of the union.

Worse still, unnecessary comparison especially among women that Mr A and B are living in high brow areas and so on should not be a ground to breath down the neck of your hubby.

Women should learn to identify with the financial strength of their husband. In addition, it is better to mention that the agitation for gender equality is dangerously rearing its ugly head into the mentality of some Africans.

Beside, God never created male and female as equals. One is meant to love and lord over the other, while the other is to obey, as far as it is not sinful.

Unfortunately, it is not so anymore. Different opinion group, advocacy or agitation group allbplay abrole in the make or mar of marriages. Couples should therefore be careful of indoctrination and be able to make their marriage work.

Against this backdrop, the effects of divorce are not far-fetched. One of which is a broken home.

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This picture above signified what we are experiencing in our various family, today we are full of experiences of how broken home, as a result of divorce have ruin the future of many potential youths. More often than not, leading them to different kinds of immoral behaviors, among them commercial sexual practices from the side of the female ones, thereby exposes them to the dreaded HIV/AIDS of unwanted pregnancy.

Most boys from broken home find armed robbery as the only way of sustaining themselves, since their parents have denied them of paternal cares and concerns.

I most mention that an individual problem according to sociologist inevitably becomes a societal problem. This assertion can be accepted because the immoral behavior of an armed robber ends up on innocent members of the society.

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Indications therefore emerge that we must collectively stand up against divorce if we really want to tackle poverty as stipulated by the Millennium Development Goals.

Women must shun the attitude of materialism. This is because it does not favour them. I was in a bus, a group of young men were arguing as to what are basic things you need to give a woman to win her over? One answer that was common and that made me feel ashamed of myself is that you have to lie to a woman for her to love you.

Women should be challenged to proof them wrong! Parents on their side should allow their children decide whom they want to leave with their lives and how they want to leave. Gone are the days when parents were seeing to exercising absolute control on their children. So, family members should be friends in progress rather than enemies of progress.

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IN CONCLUSION:
It is Worthy to mention that the Gospel upholds marriage as the unity of two minds, two hearts, two bodies into one (matt 19:5-6) this unity was ordained by God who by divine choice created human beings as individuals.

God fashioned marriage and allow human beings the option of choice so that marriage will not be a mindless and involuntary lumping together of opposites and opposing genders.

He rather left it open-ended so that various levels of consideration with regard to time; when to marry and when to settle down and many other considerations.

Since this level of freedom make marriage a human enterprise that gives room for intense moments of planning and executing. May the same freedom create an enabling environment for the management of any crises that comes after marriage and never to resort to divorce. End.

REFERENCE: Volume 1 link,

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