Very good point about self hate and being able to love yourself first. In situation where people are taught hate as a form of love... I can't imagine how screwed up inside they must be.
That particular quote is very hard to trace, I tried. He did say something very similar about resentment. But nonetheless true. - I wanted to add that the people who killed young Matthew were also young and one was female. They were over 18 but still very young. I imagine they were raised in a climate where racism, intolerance and homophobia thrive and is normalized how else could three young people come to decide this was a good thing to do unless they were taught it.

There is always the odd violent psychopath where their minds are not right from birth but this was not that. We sadly dealt with that in my hometown recently where a young man brutally murdered a young child. This happened too close to me and my friends. Yes his childhood was not great, but it wasn't horrible either. He was raised around good people. I have to think those are two separate kinds of issues. Sorry off track a bit. Memories still raw.