This was a real eye opener! I always struggled with the two opposing views. The first is saying that you cannot change the other person. You can only change yourself. On the other side that opinion who says that you are ok just the way you are. What you said is appealing to me: Change into a person you would like to have on your side.
If we wanna change others , we should change ourselves first . They will do their own self changing . If we do not live ourselves , we can't pick faults in others
Yes, you are right!