Mystery of love and attraction

Hi I am @nikimonrock. Now I am here to discuss about mystery of love.

Who are we attracted to? Who do we love? And why? And who loves us? And why? Attraction and love are a mystery, but Wendy Paris’s article “The Laws of Attraction” is an excellent review. I would like to follow up and discuss the two most common theories of attraction. They are, as we might expect, contradictory. These are the “Opposites Attract” theory (a complementary theory), and they often do; and the “Birds of a Feather Flock Together” theory (a mirror or clone theory), and they often do. Contradictory theories, therefore, and both are right and wrong.

Opposites really do attract, as we are attracted to those who have personality attributes and qualities that we lack or need or admire, and that complement our own. This is the “other half” theory, (which goes back to Plato) or even the “better half” theory. One friend told her husband in front of me: “You complete me!” He is Australian and seemed a bit surprised, but let it go. Her friend who heard this was horrified. She said she did not feel incomplete and did not need anyone to complete her. imageStill, extroverts and introverts may be drawn to each other, intellectuals and athletes, old and young, black and white (illegal in many states until the Loving case in 1979), the poor to the rich (not so much the other way round) and other opposites. (And almost everyone is attracted to the attractive: attractiveness attracts, opposites or not). The attraction of the unknown, the different, the learning, the exotic, even the dangerous, may be alluring. This theory of the opposites amplifies the definition of the sexes as opposites, problematic though that definition may be.

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