Love & marriage 20
Today I continue on the topic of sex in your marriage.
Sex is one the biggest reasons that men give for divorce. We all know that the divorce rate today is very high. Divorce is nasty and most of the times the children are the biggest victims. I know every parent love their children dearly. To ensure a happy and fulfilling life for yourself, your spouse and your children, it is worth it, to work on your love-life and sex-life.
What is the reason that sex cause so many differences and unhappiness in marriages? One definite reason is the way sex is portraited on television and in movies. These mediums portray the arousal of woman and men as the same which is the biggest misconception. This leads to confusion and feelings of inadequacy. Men and woman start to doubt their abilities if sex doesn't happen like in the movies. Men and woman's bodies and emotions are totally different. Not having a proper understanding of this differences and what your spouse's needs are, is in my humble opinion, the main reason for most of the sexual problems in a marriage.
Men and women differ so much in the way that they are sexually aroused. I think most of us know that men are aroused spontaneously. Feelings of arousal and the desire for sex usually come before any sexual activity.
Women need a lot more to come in the mood for sex. You may have heard the expression that men work like a microwave and women like a slow cooker. For her just to feel like having sex she needs most of the time non-sexual physical touch, like holding hands, hugging and kissing. She needs words of affirmation of your love, of your desire for her. She also needs you to demonstrate that love to her during the day. All this only pave the way for her to become aroused.
I continue tomorrow on tips for men how to achieve the above and the day after for women how to keep your husband happy.
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nice post
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You have such great post and many folks here do. Yet I feel like I do not get word of the folks I am following so I do not know when they have a new post. I feel the same is true of the post I do. I hot a good post up on how the world views America and got little response. I wonder if there is something in the feeds like Face book where you do not get the notice that a follower or friend has a new post. Unless you get on each individual page and look I do not know how to remedy this. Any suggestions? As always a good post I upvoted.
Thank you enjoywithtroy. Yes I read that article it was very good. I think maybe some of the people we are following don't care. They only care about their following and making their money. What I plan to do is look through my following and if there is people that never interacts with me and I also don't see frequent posts of them, then I am going to unfollow and search for new people that share my interests. Just keep on posting!
So, not only do you address the topic but you are going to give tips to address the issue too?! Super Cool. I do agree with the spontaneous part in regard to males. I have noticed if the time is taken to adhere to the pre- romance(I guess that's an accurate way to describe it?) part in regard to the wife before hand it actually makes the act of sex more enjoyable for both husband and wife.
yes, I will continue today with the tips. :-) Suddenly my Love and marriage is not doing so good. I can't understand why they are decreasing the votes. How can support my followers with only 10 votes a day?
It seems to have taken a dip after the hard fork. I wonder if your followers are unsure of what percentages to vote. I looked in your wallet. You didn't decrease any steem. This is a perplexing situation.