In life, you and others are two subjects of communication, playing a play together. If we all want to play the leading role all the time, there will always be some conflicts. Therefore, someone needs to play a supporting role in communication.

If you want to gallop in the communication field, sometimes, supporting role is one of the necessary choices. You must think of yourself as a grass, which sets off the dignity and height of a big tree.

In the 20th century, the telephone company in new york made a detailed study on the conversation on the telephone, trying to find out which word was mentioned most frequently on the telephone. The result of the study is surprising. The word is actually "I", which appears 3,955 times in 500 calls.

If you pick up a group photo of yourself, who will you look at first? It must be yourself. But if you show yourself in front of others and make them interested in you, you will get the opposite result: you will never have many true and sincere friends, and you will never have lasting success.

Elijah, a famous scholar, said: "There is no mystery about successful business contacts ... It is extremely important to pay attention to the people who speak to you, and nothing makes people happy like that."

Some critical people, even the fiercest critics, often soften and surrender in front of a patient listener. So if you want to be a talkative person, you must first learn to listen. If you want others to be interested in your praise, you must first make people feel interesting. Ask other people's favorite questions and praise or encourage their achievements.

Forget yourself. You can't forget the person you are talking to opposite, and you must be more interested in him than you are in yourself. Told even more in silence than they had told in sound, no praise is better than a compliment.

Listening to others is the best compliment and recognition.

As a sincere listener, you should know how this silent praise works. Of course, it's not just done with ears.

First of all, listen carefully. Everyone is a unique world, is a gorgeous scenery, we should know how to appreciate it.

When you feel bored, think about it. People are willing to appreciate the grassland sheep, the blue sea and the sky, the tide along the spring river, and then give a tut praise. Why don't they go to see people and listen to people? Therefore, listening, not only to the ears, but also to the heart, not to the heart, is just boring noise.

Secondly, listen with your brain. At this time, you must be like a brilliant detective, and judge what the other person really wants to say, what he wants, what he avoids, and when it is true feelings.

When to stop talking. Listening to people is like visiting fortune-teller. We should find out the hidden essence through the sporadic fragments on the surface. Language is the product of intellectual games, and its extreme is hidden in the overtones. Don't let others feel that he is casting pearls before swine, but let him feel that he is facing a bosom friend and revealing his true feelings. Once again, use expression to convey the effect of your listening. The same sentence, accompanied by different expressions, will express different meanings. The speaker uses language, but also uses expressions, tones and gestures to tell. The listener is speechless, but his eyes, mouth and chin say a lot. A good listener should be an active participant and can use facial expressions to influence the communication process.

Finally, use your mouth. The listener naturally has the right to speak with his mouth. If you agree with other people's remarks at an appropriate time during listening, it will make your listening appear more sincere.

Sincere listening is the perfect compliment, you are a supporting role in the situation, and you show a respectful appearance. Others are the protagonists in the scene, and he can express all the advantages and disadvantages in words. But you must understand that the key point is that it is your listening that makes him talk so eloquently, and it is your silent praise that makes him believe in you and give you everything you need. Take a step back, you can be lucky enough to see the eagle striking the sky and the fish flying at the bottom as a supporting role, and praise others as sincerely as Jennifer.