What makes up our self-esteem
Often, failures happen not because luck or fate was against someone, but because they lack confidence in themselves. External issues matter, but more often, a person's attitude and mood are the real cause of setbacks.
To see if someone lacks confidence, watch what they do and how they do it. Many believe that self-confidence is something you’re born with or a gift from above. But it’s actually a mindset you develop from your early experiences with others.
A tough childhood does not have to define your future. You can change your attitude by working on yourself. To reach your potential and find success, you need to learn to believe in yourself, value your worth, and manage your emotions.
Talking with a psychologist can help you sort through your past and find the moments that still hurt your confidence. It’s hard to do this alone because painful memories are often avoided. A psychologist can gently help you see the parts of yourself you don’t want to face.
If you want to build your confidence, start focusing on your successes and failures. Celebrate your achievements. Don’t underestimate what you can do, and avoid being overly critical. Recognize even small wins because they matter.
It helps to write these successes down and review them often. Do it in the morning or at night—whenever it works best. This reminder can help you remember your wins and boost your belief in your abilities.
People who value themselves are better at solving problems and reaching their goals. They tend to see opportunities rather than obstacles. It’s important to know your strengths and trust your skills. If you don’t believe in yourself, no one else will.
You can also tell yourself each day: "Don’t compare myself to others. Everyone is different and has their own strengths." This may seem old or simple, but basic truths are often the most helpful.
Comparing yourself to others can hurt your confidence. We are all different, with different backgrounds and chances. It’s better to understand your qualities and learn how to use them well.
Focus on what makes you unique instead of trying to change for someone else. If you try to be like others, you might miss your own joys and strengths. Developing your true self can answer many questions in life.
Learning to manage your emotions is also useful for building confidence. Knowing how you feel and handling those feelings well can help you judge yourself more honestly. Negative feelings often distort how we see ourselves and our actions.