Willpower Doesn't Work. Here's How to Actually Change Your Life.

Personal progress and achieving success are best approached like you're overcoming addiction. Because, quite literally, that's what you're doing. As human-beings, we all have addictions.

I openly admit being addicted to social media, my current belief system, my comfort zone, and my excuses. I'm also addicted to a lot of other behaviors that contradict my goals.

We are all addicted. And the cognitive dissonance is numbing.

If you're serious about the changes you want to make, willpower won't be enough. Quite the opposite. Willpower is what's holding you back.

Willpower is a broken approach to thriving and success

"Willpower is for people who are still uncertain about what they want to do." -- Helia

If you're required to exert willpower to do something, there is an obvious internal conflict. You want to eat the cookie, but you also want to be healthy. Environment versus goal.

The tension is mounting...

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What are you going to do?

Are you going to be strong this time and resist? Or are you going to crumble?

According to psychological research, your willpower is like a muscle. It's a finite resource that depletes with use. As a result, by the end of your strenuous days, your willpower muscles are exhausted and you're left to your naked and defenseless self -- with zero control to stop the night-time munchies and time wasters.

At least, that's what you've been taught.

Clearly, the research on willpower explains human behavior. But only on the surface level -- the effects. The very fact that willpower is required comes from two more fundamental sources -- the causes:

1. You don't know what you want, and are thus internally conflicted.

2. You haven't committed to something and created conditions that facilitate your commitment.

What do you really want?

"Once you make a decision, the universe conspires to make it happen." -- RalphWaldo Emerson

If your life requires willpower, you haven't fully determined what you want. Because once you make a decision, the internal debate is over. As Michael Jordan has said, "Once I made a decision, I never thought about it again."

After you decide what you want, the decision is made. Thus, all future decisions regarding that matter have also been made. No questions.

So, are you serious about this? Or are you just talking? Are you still on the fence, or have you decided?

Until you decide, you'll be required to use willpower, and will continue making minimal progress.

Are you committed?

What is commitment?

How do you know if you're truly committed to something?

When it comes to achieving goals, commitment involves:

Investing upfront
Making it public
Setting a timeline
Installing several forms of feedback/accountability
Removing or altering everything in your environment that opposes your commitment
If you're truly committed to something, in your mind, it's as though you've already succeeded. All doubt and disbelief are gone.

If you're committed to running a marathon, you're going to put everything in place to make sure it happens. You're not going to leave it up to chance.

You're going to start by signing up for a race (investment). You're going to make it public (phase one of accountability). You're going to get a running partner who holds you accountable. You're going to track your progress (feedback) and account your progress to your accountability partner. Lastly, you're going to remove things in your life that keep you from running.

Commitment means you build external defense systems around your goals. Your internal resolve, naked to an undefended and opposing environment is not commitment.

Creating conditions that make success inevitable

"The addict only needs to change one thing... their whole damn life." -- Ben Hill, Ph.D.

No matter how much internal resolve you have, you will fail to change your life if you don't change your environment.

This is where the willpower approach fails. The willpower approach doesn't focus on changing the environment, but instead, on increasing personal efforts to overcome the current environment. What ends up happening?Eventually you succumb to your environment despite your greatest efforts to resist.

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